While out 1 day, you're surprised to see your mother holding hands with someone who is clearly her lover. She

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notices you, runs over and begs you not to say anything to your father. (Assuming your parents are still married to each other.)

How would you respond?

What would you do if your father later told you that he was going crazy because he kept thinking your mother was having an affair yet knew it was just his imagination?

(This is not a situation I am in! I do not need advice. I'm just curious to learn your response. This is just another question in the same book I am reading.)

Seems like there are lots of mature responses and immature responses.
Rtanys is by far the funniest! Good thinking my friend! LOL!

YahooGuru2u: How are you not directly involved? I mean I get what you are saying and I agree totally, but didn't your mom drag you into this by running over to you begging you not to say anything? Isn't your father dragging you into this by his asking for your reassurance or by him expressing his feelings? Aren't you already brought into this by nature b/c they are YOUR PARENTS?
Just me thinking. I'm still pondering your answer.

Answer 1

I would tell my mom that I was disappointed but it's not my place to meddle in her marriage. I would tell dad to talk to mom about how he feels. I would also tell him to follow his instincts, after all, he should know her better than anyone else.

Answer 2

I would let the situation be about them, not me. I have learned that my life can be filled with as many problems as I want to take on, so if I am not directly involved I choose not to take it on. In a situation like that anything you do will create conflict. I am not the world's judge, so I don't have to go around "making" justice happen. What is really cool is that justice happens all by itself if I stay out of the way.

Answer 3

Get the facts. Pin mom down and tell her you need to know her reason for the affair.In my opinion if she doesn't have a real good reason then somebody needs to let the dogs out. Maybe you shouldn't tell dad, but someone should. I once saw my dad with my moms best friend he was opening his car door for her to get in. She did, on his side. They drove away with her riding up next to him. I went home and told my mom what I saw. She said no that's Nancy, that's my friend. It must have disturbed her some because the following week mom busted pop and (best friend Nancy) with their pants down. With marriage comes rules. If you don't live by those rules and take your vows seriously someone gets hurt. That pain is almost unbearable. People who break those vows should be punished.

Answer 4

First I would keep quiet about it. After all I wouldn't want to cause a break-up in my family if that could be avoided. It would be difficult trusting my mother whenever she has to leave the house.
In the case of my father I would have to not respond to him, just listen and be impartial. I wouldn't want to add to his anguish or guilt concerning his suspicions. I would hope that my mom would eventually come clean & end her illicit affair. I would also want to know why she felt that she needed to do this.

Answer 5

okay, so mom knows that I know...dad thinks he's going crazy and has some kind of idea something is amiss...or he wouldn't even give it a second thought...
I would tell my mother that I think it is horrible of her and that she either tells my father, or I will...
then, i would go from there and see what transpires...I would know that if it unresolvable that I would have paid a hefty price for it...I, however, could not live with this knowledge kept to myself very long.

Answer 6

"Well, Mom, about that new car...". Bleed the adultress for all she's worth. There are two possibilities. Either she'll pony up the bones, or she'll admit the truth to her poor husband. You either profit from this or she admits her failing. Either way, you stay relatively out of it.

Answer 7

That relies upon. I hate for a preacher to tell human beings to hold arms, o r supply somebody a hug, or perhaps shake arms. i think that as quickly as you touch somebody your spirits additionally are touching and which you ought to be careful who you touch or who touches you. I do carry arms with my enjoyed ones while we pray.

Answer 8

well thats my mother regardless and how would you know that your father is not out there doing the same? i would not tell anything if he finds out he fines out! but you better believe that im going to tell her not to say i knew

Answer 9

sounds like a personal probable 2 me

Answer 10

I would say nothing about it to dad and probalby talk 2 mom to tell dad about it if she really loves him.