Hello all This is to get your advice on problems during penetration while trying to have intercource. I am having a problem having intercource with my spouse as I'm somehow not able to enter my wife.In all our tries it has ended up either going into the anus or is only rubbing the vagina rather that actually entering it. Am not too sure if it is to do with improper positioning or something else. Shall be obliged if I could get some inputs on this matter.
2006-06-25 18:04:10 · 17 answers · asked by GMA Sen 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
have you tried letting her Gide your member in and is she wet? when my hubby and my self do it he gets too excited and wont's to put it in and cant find it so I'll do it.
2006-07-09 14:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by 360 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have vaginismus. It is the inability to allow entry for vaginal sexual interourse. Sometimes caused by relationship problems or new to sex..
Causes are multifactorial negative messages about sex and sexual relationship in upbringing may cause a phobic reaction. Poor body image of the genital area also will cause this.
History of sexual trauma, although rates of vaginismus appear to be similiar abused and unabused populations of women.
Other women may have a new onset of an infection of post surgical scarring or post delivery scarring from chldbirth.
Having her put her OWN fingers in the vagina to desensitize it will help her accept you at a non sexual time of just cuddling or even without you there....in the bath etc.. It promotes sexual self awareness. Lubrication can also be an issue....
GOOD LUCK
2006-07-09 16:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie, FNP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May want to have her checked by your doctor.. may be hymen with great tinsel strength.. if that is not the problem (she should have had this checked before marriage anyway), there is apparently insufficient lubrication.. perhaps you need to take much more time in foreplay to cause these secretions to become active. One other factor would involve the glands that secrete the lubricant. If they are not functional, you will have to apply an external type lubrication.
2006-07-09 13:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by mrcricket1932 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a good lubricant. Go to the drug store & get some KY. If you're nervous & it's dry then it's not going to go in easily. Put the lube on yourself & on his entire member. You will have to guide it in slowly & just take the pain. I'm very small down there & my ex was very large so it just takes time to adjust. Your muscles have to be relaxed. Once you push it past a certain point it will be easier. It's just hard getting past the tip if you're tight but the lubricant will help.
2016-03-27 04:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word "inputs" was a rather good pun!! If she is in menopause that would be typical. If not, why not have her see a GYN. Why would you bother with something that personal on this little old site. I'll tell you what you probably already know......
take your wife to a good GYN.
2006-07-09 17:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your wife small? try using your finger, one at a time then as that really isn't doing anything then try two for a lil bit. you might need to do this a few times before try intercourse again.this is what works for me(gf is small)
Then again you might just need some lube. Good luck!
2006-07-09 01:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by marvin04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude this could be a problem with U. Turn on the lights hold ur penis and open her vagina and there it goes for sure! Do try it.
2006-07-08 06:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she still a virgin? are you just really huge?she needs to relax more try having a drink or 2 it took my hubby over two weeks we tried all the time and it finally happend but it hurt really bad ,and continued to hurt for over a year,hope it all works out
2006-07-09 15:44:46 · answer #8 · answered by laura a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must really have a tight hymen. Try lube and do it gently. Are you sure you have a full erection? If not the problem may lie with you.
2006-07-08 01:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by papa_jun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if using some type of lubricant like K-Y jelly it might be her. she may want to go and get it check out
2006-07-06 07:14:34 · answer #10 · answered by you_me_set 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋