I had a relationship with someone that has just ended. He has already moved on . Its been 6 days. I feel like we didn't belong together. I loved him very much but now i just care about him. he feels the same now. I don't know what happened. this is the second failed relationship. I feel like a failure why do i feel like this. It felt so real it felt right. so now i realize it was for the best and we are better apart then together. any advice on how to get over the guilt. Anyone in the same position. Anyone want to talk on yahoo messenger. my email is tlittlejohn25@yahoo.ca. thanks.
2006-06-25 17:58:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Generally, it seems that men can move on emotionally before they move on physically and women can move on physically without moving on emotionally. This is not always the case, but generally, how I've seen things happen. Nevertheless, a failed relationship does not make you a failure. It just means that particular relationship was not right for you and sometimes that's a necessary step to learning what is right for you.
2006-06-25 18:03:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think almost everyone feels like a failure when a relationship ends. It is a loss, and as humans we grieve when we lose something. Depending on your age you are surely going to go through a few relationshipis. A reason for a relationship is to figure out if that person is someone you can be with long term. It may take many relationships before you find this person. Let yourself grieve and get rid of guilt and feelings of failure. Feel the feelings then let them go. You will mature and eventually deal with loss better. You will never know who you will be with if you don't have relationships. They will come and go. Eventually one will stick. The worst thing is to stick with a relationship JUST to have someone in your life. Move on in great anticipationship for future loves and relationships. This is part of the human experience.
2006-06-25 18:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every one who has some form of conscious feels remorse and guilt re the end of a relationship. the person who generally ends the relationship often creates a new life relatively early as they have already grieved over the relationship. ending a relationship is not easy and takes a lot of heartache. for you it is still early days but it is natural to feel hurt seeing the ex has already began a new relationship. We dont find our soul mate instantly and many spend years on a fruitless journey. Two relationships which have ended does not mean the end of the world.Perhaps it would be better for you to take a relationship one day at a time and enjoy the moment. If it works it works if not then learn from it and move on.
2006-06-25 18:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
i feel good that i avoided a disaster
i am thankful that there were no unwanted children or the poisoning of the childrens mind that comes with a divorce / split
i see good in bad things
and if it did not work out
i do get a lil introspecitve
but not for long
there is simply too much life to live
and too short of a time to live it
and no time for regrets and looking back
you can only learn from mistakes
and try not to repeat them
2006-06-25 19:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship isn't meant to last forever. You aren't a failure. Remember the memories and cherish them and realize soon you will have a new relationship and new memories.
2006-06-25 18:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by lilos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have before and it is very hard to move on expecialy when he already has. Try your hardest and try being single for a while and just getting a lot of good guy friends. If you like one of them then go out with him.
2006-06-25 18:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by Lacey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got a divorce but I know we are better off apart. Its hard when you still get along afterwords because you wonder if you could have made it work, but all in all, it sounds like your heart was not in it. You did the right thing.
2006-06-25 18:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by skigod377 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i really do, i have been analyzing all the things i did wrong, but there are also the things she did wrong too, but i think everyone feels guilty after a breakup
2006-06-25 18:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by bigdaddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just blame HIM!! It works out so nicely.
2006-06-25 18:31:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think everyone does
2006-06-25 18:02:05 · answer #10 · answered by Jason M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋