Post-partum Sex?

Question

Im having a bit of trouble , like , me and my husband have had sex a couple of times already and it still hurts a bit or doesnt feel right..
I already went to post-partum appointment and got checked , acording to them , im fine ..Is this normal ? I also get very dry when we are performing , I heard It could be the breastfeeding ? I am a little concern , sex is not too enjoyble for me lately and is kind of depressing !

Answer 1

ur libido is low....probably cuz of hormones. Try using lubricant in the meantime

Answer 2

it took me 6 months before it stopped hurting when my husband and I tried having sex. I had to have stitches from a tear and even though they had healed long before it still felt like the stitches were right there. The first time I bled because of the condom. The second time a few months later it still hurt and again I bled from the condom. I wasn't back on birth control pills yet. The third time I was back on BC pills so we didn't use condoms and though it still hurt a little less I didn't bleed that time. My son is now 20 months old on the 27th and we are trying to conceive again. It isn't easy as it still hurts if my husband pushes down even a little on my perineum. It really depends on how you delivered and how long you have waited to start having sex again. I had bleeding from Oct 27 when Gabe was born until just after Christmas, I think it went for 10 weeks total. I went for a pap in March after that and everything was fine, I expressed my concerns with my OBGYN and she told me just to take it easy and try different positions and use lube if I needed it. Normally that was the least of my problems, but it did help some.

Be patient and good luck.

Answer 3

"Enjoying sex again: It can take a while for you both to get back to your previous of sexual interest. You may need to spend more time on fondling, kissing and other foreplaying before you become sexually aroused. For the first few times you make love, it's best to avoid penile penetration and stick to gentle oral or manual sex. And because an episiotomy site can be surprisingly painful during intercourse and may take months to become totally pain-free, please be honest with your partner and tell him if sex causes you discomfort or pain. Getting him to touch your scar will help him to understand hw you feel and be sympathetic. Having a warm bath before lovemaking and using a water-soluble vaginal lubricant or saliva can be a great help.

Whether or not you've had an episiotomy, you'll probably need extra lubrication. Until your hormone levels are back to normal, your vagina won't lubricate itself as quickly as in pre-birth days, no matter how much foreplay you have. Avoid non-water-soluble lubricants such as petroleum jelly because they can prevent air from reaching the lining of your vagina and can encourage the growth of harmful bacteria.

When you start making love again, you may well find that man-on-top positions are uncomfortable. Experiment with other positions, side-by-side positions are especially good to try if your suffering from a sore episiotomy site. Whichever positions you use, be patient, don't do too much at first, and build up your sexual activity again gradually"

Answer 4

I had a C section and it still hurt to have sex 2 months later. I also am breastfeeding and still very dry and the baby is over 4 months old now, we use a lubricant and MD says once i stop b/f my hormones will adjust and I should have more desire and less dryness, it is a temporary situation and best for baby to b/f anyway, hopefully you have an understanding partner.

My sister gave birth and it took her 6 months to enjoy sex again.

Good luck.

Answer 5

For me, some positions have been a little painful, and I've needed more lubrication. I also think I developed a sensitivity to the lube we had been using, so we had to start using a different kind because the first kind burned. Using plenty of the right kind of lube in the right position has been almost as good as before, though, but it does take a little more time & effort.

Answer 6

this is normal , use to ky lubricate , a lot of women dont feel comfertable about sex after a baby for many reasons , , one is they may not feel atractive anymore ,
2 there sexual hormone levels are not like they use to be , 3 there afraid the baby will wake up etc, try cuddling , adn a lil more forplay , after time yoll be willing and more relaxed etc , wait awhile before trying again , after all your body has went through nines months of hormaonal change as well as physical changes , its gonna take more than 6 weeks for everything to balance back to normal

Answer 7

I'm not an expert...but I say go when you are ready. We waited a month until after my wife had our kids...but if you feel overly depressed, I urge you to seek counseling of some type (even if just your close friends)...post partum depression can be serious.

Answer 8

Completely normal...it DOES get better, but I've heard it never feels quite the same...

Answer 9

I think its all normal...You are going through so much right now. No wonder sex isn't first on your list.

Answer 10

i had my little girl 8 months ago, and i'm still not really up for sex. it still hurts and i just don't have the urge. much to the dismay od my hubby...don't worry about it.