My husband loved someone after our marriage when i was pregnant.mine is early pregnancy and iam basically shy girl which he knows very well before marriage itself.we roamed about before marriage for 4 months during that time he was very good and i also said iam very shy and i dont talk much,for which he didnot say anything.later after marriage he started loving my own sister and she also loved him,now i have 5yrs old boy .they both have been loving for past few yrs and after her marriage she have told him that she didnot love my husband but acted for my sister's sake as i had few problems in my in_laws place.so she have said that she loved him only for my sake that i should be happy. but my husband was in deep love with her,he couldnot tolerate that she didnot love him, so now he have become vexed and he wanted to either divorce me or even he wants to sucide.but all these 5 yrs he was good to me.iam in cricitcal position i love my husband verymuch and i dont want to miss him pls help.
2006-06-25 17:32:32 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't make someone love and want to be with you. Free will is something that we all have. Have some respect for yourself and devote your efforts to raising your children. Begging won't make him stay, he'll just become even more disgusted with you.
You did mention that you are shy, so be sure to get a good attorney to ensure that your children will be well taken care of. I hope you have some job skills (I wouldn't want you to end up with nothing). Be sure to ask for child support and if you are a housewife be sure to ask for alimony. Look out for your own welfare and the welfare of your children.
He doesn't want to be with you anymore (the man said that he'd rather commit suicide if he couldn't be with someone else - wake up, have some dignity). The sooner you accept that, the easier it will be for you to move on with your life. I wish you well.
2006-06-25 17:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by kcsilverlining77 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey, move on. Your sister! It would have been better if it had been another woman. Not saying that cheating is good but that's the lowest that a man can get. And your sister, how much does she really love you? I mean my husband left me about 8 months ago for another woman and he has been telling me that he's going to give me a divorce since October 2005. Now when I question him about the divorce papers, he tells me that I am talking "stupid"?? But when the divorce papers come I am going to sign them. But as for me and our children, I must move on, I can't keep wondering why? I hope you have not stayed with him for 5 yrs knowing about him and your sister. When I found out, it was within mins that I asked him to leave, not in a nice way and I am shy too. You can do better, I am not saying that it's easy because it's not but you will find peace and when he sees that you're moving on he will start to wonder and rethink. Look into his eyes and it will tell all, they are the windows to the soul. But if you keep chasing behind him and crying telling him that you love him, it will only push him further away. To be honest, I would never take him back, especially cheating with my sister.
2006-06-25 18:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by May God Bless U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves someone else and wants a divorce, you will only make yourself miserable trying to keep him. Divorce him and go on with your life. The person who gets him, will get what she deserves, because the chances are great he will cheat on her after married too. There is someone out there better for you, who will make you happy. I know this because my X husband had many excuses why he could not come home for weeks at a time. I was not stupid even though he swore he was not with someone else, and work one hour from home will not keep you from coming home most nights, let alone for weeks at a time. I was miserable, as I am sure you are, most of the time. I finally gave up and got a divorce, and am much happier now.
2006-06-25 17:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by Breezer_Ne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wording is very confusing, sorry, but I think you are saying that though you are shy, you love your husband who wishes to divorce you. There is no way you can make someone love you who does not. Accept the divorce, get on with your life, get child support and spousal supportfor your child and yourself, learn to read and write English, if you live in this (US) country, get an education and support yourself. Being a single mom is not fun, but being a POOR single mom is even less so. Hope this helps....Good luck, sweetie....
2006-06-25 17:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-18 03:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband and sister were getting it on.. and you did not leave him right then and there.. Your husband needs mental help.. seriously for him to want to kill himself just because ur sister does not love him anymore.. If i was you i would be worried more about my kids then that skum ball you call a husband.. and as far as your sister goes i would brake all strings with him and her.. let them 2 go. What does being shy have to do with anything. You need to stand up and be a woman and move out with ur child. you are only going to hurt yourself even more if you try to get him to stay with you. and he is going to hate you more then he does right now.
2006-06-25 17:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by ~Mrs.C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-13 19:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie---listen, why do you want someone who doesn't love you? If you love him truly that much, let him be happy. We only have a fraction of a moment here on earth---don't waiste your time on wanting someone who doesn't want you back. For your son and yourself you have to be strong. Honestly, you don't need anyone to treat you this way, you deserve happiness and love fully from someone who will give it without deception. Let him go and keep your conscience clean---you did nothing wrong---all you did was love.....now, you must know when to move on and start over. It won't be easy, but you are the example for your son and how he will treat women in his life---show him how strong and capable you are. God will watch over you and you will be in my prayers....best of luck to you!
2006-06-25 18:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by pmbrundle74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are hurting. I don't understand how you can love someone who is in love with your sister. If he's in love with her, he HAS NOT been good to you. Let him go. Because you are shy and do not complain much IS NOT a good reason to stay with a man who does not seem to value you or his own life.
I wish you luck. I hope everything turns out well.
2006-06-25 17:46:57 · answer #9 · answered by 4kidsmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should relay take a good look at your self do you relay need a man to make you happy.What you live your life for this man to love someone else.who cares about him any more care about your self you know what there is alto of nice men out there that will treat you the way deceive to be treated.if he was relay that good to you then why does he want a divorce.get real you are better then that.
2006-06-26 02:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋