Why do men seem to come out on top after a divorce?

Question

My friend is currently getting ready for a divorce. Her and her husband have been married 4 years, and they have had their hard times with credit, and making it. They spent the last two years fixing his credit, and getting his **** together, and now he has perfect credit and hers is still ruined. They were supposed to begin working on hers but now it's too late? Any advice for her. P.S. He wants her to keep her newer car and he get the house. There are no children involved but it seems like she is getting screwed either way. Any advice

House is not paid off they bought it a year ago and he says he would lose his house rather than give it to her

I live in Oklahoma and what I mean is why does it seem easier for them to move on financially and emotionally

Answer 1

Men are better actors, less responsible, and less character than women.
Unfortunately, men seem to acquire finances faster than women, but then they eat off paper plates, wear underwear with holes, have few toiletries to buy, and drink draft been.

You friend will come out ahead, I promise you that.

As far as the car goes, he is still responsible for half the payment, and she gets half the equity in the house.

Wow, isn't he smart?

Answer 2

If they can't agree, it could be court ordered that they sell all property/possesions and split it 50/50. As for the credit, her creditors will go after him for any debt accrued while they were married and visa versa. She needs a good lawyer.
They are both basically screwed.
Men come out on top because we are stupid enough to let them put themselves first. We always believe that those rat-bastards will turn around and take care of us. Tell her to let that fool have the house. He'll be paying that mortgage. Then, she can find something she can afford on her own, without depending on that creep. What a jerk. He knows she has bad credit.
Since there are no kids, your friend can look at this as a chance to have a new beginning.

Answer 3

I know in the state of Florida, it is all about the women. So it must be the state you live in. I got hosed in my first marriage and I still have go back to court once a year because she is always wanting something else and no matter how much I fight it, she gets it. Hell, I use two lawyers and she goes in there by her self and I get yelled at by the judge for trying to intimidate her by bringing in two against none. Truth!!! She didnt pay our mortgage for over 5 months and did not tell me about it along with any other bills and my credit has suffered from that 5 month period. Went from mid 700 to high 500's to low 600's. The judge said that I was at fault for that because I should have called the mortgage company monthly to make sure the bill was paid. Even though his court order sited her to pay for the mortgage soley. Yeah... Florida sucks in divorce for men.

Answer 4

The reason this happens is because we love to much. We build our life around the man we love doing everything to make his life easier. In the proses we manage to forget about ourselves. We willfully put our needs on the back burner to full fill his needs. When we get the dings and dents out of him he then believes he is a better person and should move on. After all, we are no longer a challenge to him and most men need a challenge..My advise is get a good attorney. If you hire legal assistance and you don't think you're getting a fair shake, fire them and get someone else.When they ask for a large sum of $ upfront, tell them you will give them a small retainer and when you see results you will be happy to increase the amount.Most attorneys want to much $ up front and then they don't always do their job in earning it.

Answer 5

Honey

This is the first time in 15 years I have heard of a husband coming out on top in a divorce. She must have a really crappy atty. most laws today favor the wife. and while he may want the Expencive toys if it was her income that bought them his credit will quickly be in the crapper once she leave and takes her income with her. for her benifit she will be starting fresh. and without the expencive toys and the debt looming over her head so she may want to consider this.

PS there is more to this story then your friend is telling. MEN just don't leave good deals because of credit. it's usually about sex, or abuse.

GL and God Bless your friend

Answer 6

by getting divorced it relieves the husband of a lot of wifey expenses that he normally would cover if she was not a working gal or made very little money. The wife sometimes automatically takes on the same bad credit debts and lowered credit scores without it really being her fault by having joint credit card accounts, therefore he comes out on top in your situation when she is responsible for 50% of that debt unless proven otherwise.

Answer 7

I was going to say that women usually get out ahead because of the kids...but you ruined that because there are no kids!

If the house is paid off, it's a great deal, because usually there would be a fight over that largest asset. If the house is not paid off, and I suspect that they bought it soon after marriage (only 4 years ago), then it is a rotten deal. She better get herself a good attorney.

Answer 8

Divorce is never fair-to either party. If you are nice and play fair...you get shafted by the crafty neaky little sh*t. If you are the one being the sneaky and crafty little sh*it then he/she gets shafted. Everyone loses.

Regardless....be prepared to PROVE anything. If she got his credit back in order....prove it. Keep receipts of what was paid etc. Mind boggling way to live but you never know whats going to happen. I learned the hard way that people and life aren't fair. Even if they hide behind their church or their religion.

Answer 9

Because most of the property belongs to them. Most of the men are also working while most women are housewives with no education or jobs. Women should remember the top secret to staying on top IE to save secretly as much as possible throughout her pre-married and post-married life. There's no other ways about it.

Answer 10

I don't agree with you that men come out on top in a divorce. Secondly, when you are married you have "our" bills, not "his" and "hers". They have the same bills and the same credit. A lawyer is a good idea though.