ok so recently my bf went to a strip club, and he was nice enough to tell me that he went there. but then he also told me that he enjoyed it soo much, and he was planning to go again with his friends on 4th o july. he is in new jersey and i am in maryland at the moment, thats like a 3 hours drive. he told me he had a lapdance.
I didnt know how to react. I wasnt jealous at first but then later on thats the only thing that came to my mind. it makes me crazy. he says he loves me and he will go again since all his friends are going and he wouldnt wana stay alone at home on the 4th o july weekend. and he promised me that he wouldnt take a lapdance.
i know he loves me but he doesnt get it in his head that him going there is a BIG DEAL to me!
He kept apologizing and asking me what i should do to him.
I told him I didnt want to talk to him for a week. So I havnt talked to him since wednesday.
But then next wednesday i dont really know how to react, when the week is over.
2006-06-25 17:26:21 · 15 answers · asked by krinz86 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I used to be a stripper and bar manager, so I understand where your feelings are coming from, I had to deal with a lot of insecure wives and gf's in that place. But if it is a clean and decent club. Then I assure you, you have nothing to worry about. Strippers are just working people too, some people do it with their clothes on others with no clothes. Most adult entertainers are there to work to raise kids, go to college or just to pay bills. I agree there are some out there who do other things to make money and that's what give's strippers a bad name in general. I used to host couples nights on Saturday nights just so the wives and gf's could come in and see what goes on there. So what if a man get's a lap dance. It's just a dance and most laws state that dancers have to have a certain amount of space between them and the customer. It's all in fun that's why it is called Adult Entertainment. If you want to message me and ask me more about it I will do my best to answer all of your questions about it. But I am sure that you have nothing to worry about by your man going to the strip club. Hope this answer helps from someone in the profession.
2006-06-25 17:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by red_neck_biker_babe 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him that you want to go along to the next strip club without his buddies. It might excite him so much, you couldn't even imagine. He can't touch those women even with the paid lap dance, that is just a major tease for most men. I went to a strip club and enjoyed the lap dance myself even though I am not gay. I wanted to see my man's reaction to it. It turned my man on so much that he kind of went freaky with me. I liked it a lot! If you don't think you can handle that, you should look for someone a little less freaky.
2006-06-26 00:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by deep trouble 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you know that the guy can't touch the woman dancer or he gets thrown out? Those women are there to make money, not go home with the guys. I think you are overreacting a bit to the fact he went one time, but if he insists that its the greatest thing and he is going back, I could see how that would hurt you. Its obvious that your opinion does matter to him. Maybe you should ask him if you can go with him sometime. See what it is actually like for yourself before you let your insecurities get the best of you.
2006-06-26 00:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by slap_shot69 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you tell him how much it bothers you. Not talking to him makes things worse between the both of you. If he really cares about you, he'll take your words into consideration, and hopefully plan something else for the 4th of July. Good luck!
2006-06-26 00:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could go with him sometime this could have a couple results 1) he realizes how uncomfortable it is to be with another woman when you haxe a girlfriend 2) you see it is really nothing but guys drinking and bragging 3) he is really not worth your time. I woulld go and find out!!
2006-06-26 00:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by pwgarner 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
loosen up, it's no big deal. If you treat it like one it will only get worse.
My husband went to the clubs when we were dating. I really didn't care and have even gone with him and some friends before. Men like it when their women go to the strip club with them.
If you don't like it though and it really does bother you, talk to him, tell him your concerns. If he doesn't care about your feelings on the situation.....maybe you need to rethink your relationship.
2006-06-26 00:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by Amy Swallows 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
have you ever been to a strip club? if u have then u should no its hands off ,u cant touch, guys like these things the thrill of a girl rubbing against them something they cant have kind of feeling. its really not a big deal u should try it....
2006-06-26 00:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by wondering 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Even married men go to strip clubs, not all take lap dances tho. It may not be a big deal ..
2006-06-26 00:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by CUBICLE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just be honest with him about how this make you feel, and he
should understand but you need to let him know this upset you.
then go from there if he still want to go out 4. july. then you may
have a problem. it about respect each others feelings.
2006-06-26 00:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by jazzsinger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its ok to look but no contact!tell him to give u the money and you dance for him .....at least he was honest...you think?
advice from a boy
my girl hated it but she had issues i'd go watch and then later she got it extra special.............really a waste of money but sooner or later curiosity is natural.....look just don't touch!
2006-06-26 00:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋