People give the other woman flack for beinng with a married man. Calling them homewreckers and questioning their morals. Always saying they should put themselves in the wifes shoes and how horrible they are. Meanwhile they rarely say anything about the husband. WHy don't people put the blame on the correct person? It's not another womans job to keep someone else's marriage togetther. 99% of the time the man initiates it. I'm not saying it's right to date married people but why do people always blame the other woman?
2006-06-25 17:16:07 · 11 answers · asked by lilos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have always considered it to be 50/50. no its not her job to keep someones marriage happy but she should have her morals in check just like he should have too!
maybe both parties should put themselves in the wives shoes...
who cares who initiates it. it still happened.
(I'm not speaking of women who do not know he is married, but to the one who do.)
both are at fault!
2006-06-25 18:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by *Kali* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is sad but true - I am a man and I don't get it. I always thought the same way another woman is as much a victim as the wife because not only is he cheating on his wife he is also cheating on his new girlfriend.
But I have noticed that it is the wife who blames the other woman in the first place and that is wrong. i think both women should hold him down and kick the crap out of him. Yeah I think women should work this out and fix this mis-blame and place it where it truly belongs.
2006-06-26 00:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we men are mostly dogs. It's expected of us to act as such, which is sad. A lot of times, the "other" woman doesn't know about the marriage. Also, you're wrong in thinking that people always blame the other woman. Men who stay married after the ordeal will have to hear it for the rest of their lives (ie. Kobe Bryant).
2006-06-26 00:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by hiclaude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do blame the men but if there aren't such women around who would accept married men, then these men won't have such easy pickings would they?
I also agree that these married men are greedy, wanting more than what they are entitled to. They are disappointments to their wives and family. They are not faithful in the first place. Given a choice most wives would want to divorce them but for financial reasons and for the children's sake.
IMy conclusion is that I blame the men and the homewreckers. They share equal blame....50/50.
2006-06-26 03:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really bugs me when they get on the woman. 60% of the time it's the horny guy starting the affair in the first place. He's lied to the woman about being married or he tells her he's getting divorce. Put the blame on the right person be it a man or a woman. Your gut will tell you.
2006-06-26 00:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by wisehahn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a "homewrecker" and I'd like to say I don't "prowl" around for married men, as some *********.e.s. on here seem to think. I agree with you that it isn't my job to keep someone else marriage together. Fact is, if they were happy they wouldn't be straying. And they're not always straying cos they're lacking sex. No one can judge anyone else until they've been in their shoes.
2006-06-26 01:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you totally .. If the man was getting what he need at home he wouldnt look else where. its his home ,his life and he made the choice to go with another person so why should she get the blame . blame should be placed on the husband hes the one that put it in...... it doesnt matter if shes willing ..
2006-06-26 00:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by wondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man or woman, anyone who knows the person is married or involved with another and still tries to move in and get what they can from them it always takes two
2006-06-26 00:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easier. If there weren't single women on the prowl for married men the husband's options would be alot slimmer.
2006-06-26 00:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isnt right to blame just the woman in my opion he knew he was married he is at much fault as the woman he was seeing on this matter. my opion?
2006-06-26 01:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋