is there guys/grls out there that have a gf/bf but are always busy with work and school?

Question

that are not excuses but are actually working or going to college.....they love their gf's/bf's they try hard 2 spend time with them but don't have the time 2?

Answer 1

My relationship is like that. I'm always busy with college and she's always busy with work and we're lucky to see each other once a week. We work it out though. We just appreciate the time we do spend together a lot more.

Answer 2

my ex-wife & I met (what a beginning for this answer, eh?) & put about 1000 hours into determining if we were right for each other

i had a small airfreight business that was going through a hard time. she was a single mom in dental hygiene school. she had 2 boys (2 & 5; the elder had adhd & was taking the max adult dose of ritalin) by her previous hubby of 9+ years; and she had "been with" (>5) other guys prior to our marriage.

although i was then a virgin, we each felt we'd done our homework & that we had a great chance for success

during the marriage, we ended up having little time to simply enjoy each other's presence: either we were apart, or we had to take care of the kids, or we had to get some rest -- so almost all our personal time was consumed by sex with each other

in the end, the marriage failed; however, i took away from the experience some lessons that were (for me) life-changing, to wit:

1) no matter how good is the sex -- she told EVERYBODY i was the best lay ever (a comment that would've seemed less credible had she only told me); i thought she was pretty good, but i had no experience for comparison -- it can't save a marriage

2) perhaps counterintuitively, sex really isn't a big deal, and i now hate having on account of religion waited obscenely long to get started having it.

participatory sex is the sort of thing that should be enjoyed -- from the moment a person is old enough to competently consent to it (usually sometime around puberty or in the early teens, but sometimes only comparatively late in life or even never), until he or she is too old or feeble or can't anymore competently consent to it.

generally, the number of persons with which someone has had sex is directly proportional to how desireable that someone is as a sexual companion. this, i learned from experience, despite having long believed (and lived faithfully by) the religious dogma that discourages premarital/extramarital sex.

3) in a marriage, anyway, the couple should be pretty much free to celebrate their physical affection for each other for as long as they need (usually more than a year).

although i never learned my performance limit, my wife was dehydrated too badly to continue after a couple of hours of actual coupling; add to that about 2 hours of foreplay & as much afterplay as she could handle, and you're still only covering about 4-5 hours at a time.

people in a relationship need to build intimacy (which takes time), and i don't know how to articulate it, but psychological & emotional intimacy within a marriage is VERY much different from psychological & emotional intimacy during courtship.

4) i don't know how else to put this: men have an innate need to provide for their respective families. when a guy's livelihood is in jeopardy, he's going to do whatever he can to protect it. if the company needs more time, that's where the guy is going to invest his time -- even if that inconveniences his family.

because young people generally have jobs rather than careers to protect, early marriage and childbearing are very much preferable to waiting until later in life to experience those things.

5) we are finite beings; therefore, the options in our respective lives are also finite.

choose carefully what you add to your proverbial "plate," and if you discover you have too much on your plate, choose wisely which thing you want to remove. when you remove that thing, don't rake off part and try to keep part -- remove it completely.

that doesn't mean to be a jerk to anyone, but it does mean you can't avoid being a jerk as long as you are "stringing someone along." be decisive, but be polite while doing so. in the long run, it's better for everyone, and may end up salvaging a relationship with a person you really care about.

Answer 3

I am a full time student work as an EMT and have a boyfriend who is a Medic.....we hardly have time to see each other with our jobs and school....you have to make the best of it if you really want to work it out...my boyfriend and I are in the same field so we are able to work together sometimes.....plus alot of people do not understand the workings of our business...good luck and if you really want it to work find time even if it is only a little bit at a time

Answer 4

i work 2 jobs, anywhere from 4-6 days a week at both, and my bf works 40 hrs a week....it helps that we have the same job at night, but i barely ever see him....we try to hang out for a couple of hours after work every night....it's working so far....relationships aren't easy....they take work

Answer 5

I have found... that if you really REALLY want to be with someone... You'll find a way.

I once drove 2 hours one way to spend 15 minutes with a gal I was sweet on.

Excuses are excuses... efforts are efforts. We are all busy....
Life is about CHOICES. MAKE IT HAPPEN

Answer 6

Of course. My lover and I both work and go to school. It's hard but we make the time to see one another.

Answer 7

No, if you love them, you can make time.