My girlfriend really wants to give me a b/j because she has tried to but i resisted because im only 14 what should i do?? should i let her?? and this is starting to make me think she is only with me because she thinks i will have sex with her....i really feel im not ready for sex yet... so should i just dump her??
2006-06-25 16:53:59 · 46 answers · asked by Michael 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well Surely Don't Dump Her that would make her get revenge aganist you severly, so i guess just tell her in a nice way that you don't want that and if thats all she wants from you then you can tell her to hit the road. So see you when school starts. :)
2006-06-25 16:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
No... if you feel like you enjoy being with her, don't dump her. Keep resisting uting you're... until you're at least 16. See, you may not know that, but sex is SUPER DUPER dangerous. See there are planty of diseases available for you to get? Don't even think about sex until you find out everything there is to know about condoms, STDs (Sexually Transmited Diseases), and how our life spreads in DETAILS!!! It's extremely important!! Unless of course you don't really care about your own life... Trust me, this is something you gotta know in detail. Get checked if you deside to let her... It's not something you just say "yeah, yeah, I know about that..." it's WAY more important. So follow my advise... learn and then decide... Take a Human Sexuality class... Sex at such early age is nothing good. Anyway, good luck to you with your life, kid. I really hope you make the right choice cause this could be deadly important in your life.
(personally I never had any kind of sex. however I already took a Human Sexuality class and I'm 16. Trust me I'll know what to do when it comes down to it. And another thing that I want to mention... I would decline a ******** invitation simply because I think it's discusting and unnatural. I mean, imagining a girl does that to you the only thought I'd have in my head would be "Oh, I hope she won't bite it off." It's just scary...)
2006-06-25 17:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by brother from QG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you have done well not to let her perform oral sex with you. You should NOT engage in any type of sex with ANYONE until you are at least 18 years old. Sex is something that comes with an aweful lot of responsibility and if you are only 14 then you should concentrate on being a young teenager instead of things such as sex. It's natural to THINK about the opposite sex in such ways as "She's pretty" "I'd like to have a girlfriend like her" or things of that nature. But sexually, you are still too young to even consider it. Congratulations on you being "Adult" enough about it to stop her in her tracks. And it's good that you are not "ready for sex yet." If you like your girlfriend and you can keep her from continuing her pursuit of having sex, then I would say keep her. Maybe in the years to come you two may have a long relationship together. But if she continues without regard to your feelings.... dump her. Besides, you shouldn't engage in sex until you are married. Hope you have a wonderful life and just put it in God's hands.... he will show you the way.
2006-06-25 17:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finially a teen with a brain!!! I would say do not give into her wishes. My friend is a nurse in a hospital and there are many teen girls that come in with venereal diseases in their throats. If she only wants to go out with you for sex then I would say definitly dump her. She will just keep on pressuring you. I am married now but if I could go back and erase the years before I got married I would. I think that waiting until you are married is always best. God has a special person He wants you to wait for and you will be well rewarded is you can thrust Him and wait. Pray a lot and maybe don't have a girlfriend until you are ready to handle the pressure.
I am very proud of your decision to resist her attempts. It takes a lot of self control.
2006-06-25 17:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...if you are not ready don't do it just to make someone else feel better. Sure people will tell you it will feel good etc. etc. but ultimately if you are not ready...or comfortable with it say NO. Tell her how you feel...let her know that you like her just fine without her having to give you a bj...or have sex. Sometimes girls think that's what guys want them to do so you will like them more. If you both really like each other ...talk about it and wait if that's what you need. If she can't understand that...you should dump her and find someone who will respect your wishes...and not pressure you into something you don't..or aren't ready for.
2006-06-25 17:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by toe_roper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well mabey try talking to her how u feel first,and if she's not for that yeah,u deserve someone who can respect what u stand for and not pressure u.U seem like a great guy and glad u know your not ready yet!i'm 14 and I know i'm sooo NOT!she is to oyung to be wanting to do that,u might get some answers from guys saying yeah do it,but don't!and if she's using u for sex u don't need to be togther,because a relationship is about more then sex!good luck if u dump her you'll find someone!
2006-06-25 16:56:53 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Mariah™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should tell her how you feel. don't do anything that you are not ready for or don't want to. if she can't respect your decision and your feelings then she isn't the girl for you and you should send her on her way. but no one should just be dumped, just talk to her first. if she doesn't like what you have to say then let her go. girls complain all the time about guys trying to pressure them into doing things, but it happens to you guys just as much. don't let pushy girls pressure you into anything. a lot of girls would love to have a self-respecting guy like you that would respect them too. so if you don't stay with this girl, i know you will find someone a lot better for you. good luck and i hope you don't give in to the pressure. you deserve respect and to be able to wait until you're ready.
2006-06-25 17:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by curious angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let her do it because she is only 14 like you you should wait until your of age so you can handle this type of situation and if you want to know im 18 so i know what im talking about i never did but i think you and her should wait and talk to her about it will help you in the long run because if your not ready tell her this ask if she's only in this relationship for sex and if she is tell her you have to go dont let anyone force you do anything you dont want to do and good luck
2006-06-25 17:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by Rivelle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not comfortable with something, then don't do it. If your girlfriend respects you and cares about you. She'll let it go. Explain to her in you own words that you are not rejecting her and that you care alot about her and that you are simply not comfortable with a b/j. You are right you are only 14. If she continues even after this conversation, I would be suspicious about her intentions. This doesn't make you less of a man or gay. However, you obviously have put alot of thought into it. If anything, you have integrity. And, alot of girls who want a real relationship would find that attractive.
2006-06-25 19:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by N P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never let anyone push you into something you don't want to do. Talk to her about what your limits are (when you're not in the bedroom) and if she respects your wishes, then stay with her, but if she forces the issue, I would back off. But she also might be doing these things because she thinks that's what guys expect of her. Show her that you have more respect for her than that.
2006-06-25 16:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by fictionalpoet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 14 year old girl and believe it or not our urges are just as bad as yours so thats probably what is up. Don't do it if you aint ready yet.... Talk to your gf and tell her how you feel if she don't understand then break up wit her.... if she really loved you then she would stop trying and wait till you wanted it.... and I'm surprised you wouldn't let her give it to you.... all my guy friends at my school are all just tryin sooooo hard to get into my pants... its sad really... but tell her how you feel about it and if she still trys to git wit you then dump her
2006-06-25 18:28:22 · answer #11 · answered by Chaysee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋