2006-06-25 16:50:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Some people are just loners by nature, they don't feel the need to share their lives with anyone. When you enter a friendship or relationship, you put your emotions out there and risk getting hurt, Some people are not willing to do that. I think that the risk is well worth it.
2006-06-25 16:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people avoid friendships and relationships because of their past histories with them. Many people feel they dont fit in with the people around them, so, to avoid being openly rejected or hurt, they completely avoid the friendship all together. Because of this avoidance of friendship, there is also avoidance of relationships, because they feel that if they cant have a friendship with the people around them, they cannot have a worth while relationship. Some people also prefer to isolate themselves. Many people isolate themselves periodically just to get away from reality, and to be left alone with their thoughts. Having time to yourself is good sometimes, but if you're anything like me, and have a history of depression, you wont like being left alone with your thoughts- understandably! Another reason why people avoid friendships and relationships is because they find it extremely hard to trust people. Most people these days arent really trustworthy, and it is hard to predict when they might lie to you. Whether it's a big lie or a 'little' lie, they still lie, all the same, so some people find it difficult to trust anyone. I, myself dont trust many people- the only person i really trust is my bf. Manipulation is another issue. In order to fit in with certain 'groups', some people completely change themselves. The person who's changing may come to a realisation that they shouldnt NEED to change themselves, so they prefer to be alone. People from other groups may realise before the actual person does, and may not want to be friends with them, so when the person realises, they have nothing to fall back on, and so they avoid friendships/ relationships... There are alot of reasons for it. There might also be psychological issues. You can never really be sure.
2006-06-25 17:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by bellydancer_1989 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In short:
--rejection hurts.
--lots of people have no idea how to be a real friend, never *mind* a real lover.
--sometimes really shy and/or socially anxious people get overwhelmed when out in public alone and clam right up in spite of themselves.
--sometimes people learn all the wrong lessons in life and assume that people are going to suck until they are proven to *not* suck.
Which is a shame because some of the distant among you are the lonliest people to walk this earth, and could use a fair break. Say hi to someone already, it won't get you killed, really.
2006-06-25 17:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by Bradley P 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people are misanthropes or maybe they are afraid to trust people. I'm kinda of like this sometimes. I like to keep to myself a lot because I feel so out of touch with everyone else. I feel different from everyone else.Especially girls, they can be real nasty and malevolent to people. I don't get along with females all to well because they get jealous of me because I'm suppose to be this "pretty girl" that all the guys in my school drool over. And a lot of these girls judge me and slander me behind my back. Also, some people are very hurtful, when ever I'm with people it seems that there is always one person who wants to emotionally hurt you for no apparent reason.
2006-06-25 17:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people have gone through so many disastrous relationships, that they throw in the towel. Some have been screwed-over by their friends a lot of times, too. After awhile, they just seem to prefer loneliness to socialization.
2006-06-25 16:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lots of reasons:
1.They don't like themselfs, and think 'If I don't like me, then noone else does either'
2.They can't share and open up, they have never done that before...so they don't know how.
3.They have tried in the past and have gotten burnned...a realy, realy, realy bad crash and burn that still has scars to this day
4.They have some secret about themselfs that they can't realy hide and don't want anyone to ever know.
5.They can't get what they want, the super hot people, so they say 'why bother with anyone else'
2006-06-25 17:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because there seem to be so few people out there who have a true appreciation for a deep person who takes friendship very seriously.
2006-06-25 16:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by bikerpjb 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they are not ready, they've been hurt before or they have issues to work within themselves first in order to commit.
2006-06-25 16:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they don't want to get hurt. Any kind of relationship can mean fights and hurt. they just don't want to deal with that sh*t.
2006-06-25 16:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They either do not have social skills to keep up relationships or they don't want to be hurt.
2006-06-25 16:52:52 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋