My Boyfriend Really wants to have sex with me and i'm only 14, I feel as that is pressure, he is also 14 and everybody but nerds in our grade have done it what should i do?
2006-06-25 16:41:41 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
hmm....thats a hard question considering i go to your school..lol.....well whatever u do make a wise choice!!
2006-06-25 16:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Chances are, most people in your school have not had sex. They probably say that they have to try to make themselves look cool. You should never have sex if you do not feel comfortable. If your boyfriend does not respect you enough to stop at your personal limits, then you should dump him. There are lots of reasons why you should not have sex, many of which have already been answered. Just remember that it is your body. You should never do anything that you don't want to do. Babies, disease, and emotional damage are just a few of the risks. If your boyfriend truly likes/loves/respects/etc you, then he will not do anything beyond what you feel comfortable doing. Also, if you have sex now, you may regret it the rest of your life. Your virginity is very special that you should save for someone who is worthy of that gift.
2006-06-25 17:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by q2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't. u will regret it. im 19 and the first time i did was when i was 15 with my guyfriend. i did it to just get out of the "V-club" when i was 16 i fell in love w/ the guy i have been with until now. i wish he was my first.....and even now i think back and i could have definately waited even longer. i wish i didnt have sex until i was 18...then u understand the meaning of sex and the feelings it produces. it really is an emotional experience. wait to do it with someone you love. or even better wait until u are married....that way u really did save urself for the man u love and want to be with forever. if u feel pressured by him dont date him anymore. and if sex is "the cool thing" and u feel like u have no way around it but by having sex urself.....lie to ur friends and say u did. say u did it w/ some guy u met....i donno. just dont do it. honestly. and if there comes a time where u get close to doing it and u feel awkward.STOP. sex shouldnt be awkward. it should romantic if its w/ the right person.
2006-06-25 19:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just do something cause everyone else is doing it,wait!because u always remember your first time!your not ready if your having doubts,wait till u a little older,how would ur parents feel if u got pregant?not good,so to b safe don't do it!and hes not a real boyfriend if hes pressuring u!besides do u really want to tell your kids someday mommy had sex when she was 14?no gurl have respect for yourself and wait till YOUR ready it's YOUR body!
2006-06-25 16:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Mariah™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if your a nerd, at least you'll still have you virginity (the most amazing thing you can give to your husband) when your married! If he is pressuring you so much then you need to dump him, because chances are he will have sex with you and then leave you. You might not believe that and you will say he is not like that, but watch it will happen. Please don't do it!
2006-06-25 16:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by manda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should really wait until you are ready. don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you're not ready for. do you know why he wants you to so bad? it doesn't matter what everyone else has done, and i'd bet anything that a lot of them are lying about it. if you choose to wait(which you should) and if he really wants to be with you and cares for you then he will respect your decision and wait. i know from experience that giving into pressure and having sex before you are ready to can mess up your life. please don't do it until you are ready and really want to do it because you care about the person.
2006-06-25 16:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by curious angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let the pressure get to you
find another b/friend that respects you and does not care about who has done it. Sex is sacred and often taken 2 lightly, but you need to trust your parents and confide in them what you are going through because chances are they may have been where you are now
2006-06-25 16:49:29 · answer #7 · answered by BLUE BUTTERFLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You will regret it. Down be pressured into it. You should wait until your ready. And it's the right person. You could end up prego if you do it and be in a bad situation you don't want to be. So please think about it. I did it cause i was pressured into and i regret do it with him.
2006-06-25 16:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by lilbirdfamily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in to pressure. You'll regret it down the road. Being a virgin doesn't make one a nerd.
2006-06-25 16:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 in every 4 girls get an STD on their first time also u could get pregnat i would say no and who cares about everybody else at ur school UR 14
2006-06-25 16:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to risk being a parent? No? Then the answer is: don't be stupid enough to let what everybody does dictate your own actions. Be your own person and be smart enough to hold that thought.
2006-06-25 16:45:33 · answer #11 · answered by bikerpjb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋