I am moving away to go to school after all these years.I am finally divorced and am confident enough to do so.My son refuses to go and he is 12.I tried to reason with him but nothing works.Help???
2006-06-25 16:38:41 · 16 answers · asked by Bella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
kinda funny actually i was in the same situation when i was 12. nothing my mother said mattered but she was right when she told me that i would make new freinds but you have to let him stay in contact with his freinds whether you buy him stamps or a phone card but you need to let him talk to them even after you move. if i hadn't moved i wouldn't have my stores or my roofing business I'm currently working on a chain of bars and night clubs also. you as a mother just have to encourage him to meet new people but don't pester him about it when he comes home from school every day just occasionally ask him if he's made any new friends. i know now how hard it is from your point of veiw also but you are doing this to better yourself you have to explain this to him and he might get mad but it's only because he knows your right. i was mad at my mom too but now she and I are both successful. when you are able to afford it take him back to where you are currently living to visit with his freinds it may seem silly to do this but it will mean a lot to him, and just the fact that your asking about it shows me that what your son wants matters to you so do what you gotta do. good luck let your son read this if you think it might help matters.
2006-06-25 16:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you moving him away from his father? If he still has a good relationship with his father and his father is a good father I wouldn't punish your son by moving so far away from his dad. If your Ex is a no good creep ( I mean really a no good creep, like he's abusive or an alcoholic, not just because you don't like him anymore) then explain to your son that you have to go to school to make a better life for yourself so you can better provide for him. Bottom line, if it is something that you can put off untill he is graduated, I would try to do so, because he didn't ask for this situation, it was thrust upon him and yes, it is unfair. If there is no ther way for you to thrive where you are, he just has to go because sometimes in life we have to do things that we don't want to do. So do some soul searching in what is better for your son ( Not for you) before you decide, and then you will know that it will be a decision that yo can live with. good luck, God bless.
2006-06-25 16:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but I disagree, his opinion does matter. He has to understand the reasons why you are moving. It is true that he is a minor and he has to go with you. But tell him to try the move and give it 6 months, after that time you will reevaluate the situation. After 6 months he will get used to the move and might be happy, but there are no guarantees. Some people hate change.
2006-06-25 16:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by Grady T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His 12-year-old opinion doesn't matter. He is still at an age where he must do as his parents say. You may have to call the police in to tell him this - since he doesn't seem to believe you. Good luck.
2006-06-25 16:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 year old kids have no reasoning power, so forget that. you just explain to him why your doing what your doing and how its going to effect him. let him know he has no choice. if he doesn't like the idea, there are other alternatives, starting in the tool shed and getting worse. he should never have the option of questioning your judgment.
2006-06-25 16:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by charles r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in the car!
Try asking him what his reasons are for staying?
If he's 12, do you have to take him? You could really better yourself in your studies if you left him w/ father.
2006-06-25 16:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say give him a $100 and tell him to fend for himself. After about a week, he'll be starving and scared. He'll have to try and find you, and hitch to get there. I bet he'll never dis-obey you again. Plus it'll be a growing experience for him.
2006-06-25 16:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by Scottsdayle Warrior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have primary custody - as your son is 12 he does not have a choice. he is still a minor and you are his guardian until he is 18
2006-06-25 16:46:01 · answer #8 · answered by firehd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have to be kidding, hes 12 and u caint get him to go with you, sorry to be so blunt, but you deserve what u got, maybe the next child will be raised with discipline, and know who is the parent and who is the child
2006-06-25 16:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what choice does he have? You're his parent, you appear to have custody. Tell him to get his butt in the car.
Alternatively, if your spouse lives in the area, let him live with your spouse. You will probably enjoy the break, and will be able to immerse yourself in your studies.
2006-06-25 16:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by JM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋