My husband & I have been married for 1 1/2 years & have been trying to concieve for the whole time.?

Question

Should we look into seeing a fertility doctor?

Answer 1

Before one actually tries to conceive, it seems like it will happen immediately! Truth be told, many women take up to a whole year to conceive. After that year, doctors may intervene with medical help.

Perhaps a good place to start is to determine if you are ovulating. Most women ovulate 14 days after the first day of their last period. You can do ovulation tests around that time to determine when you are ovulating. If you do not get a positive result, a doctor may help you to ovulate by starting you on a medicine called clomid.

Some women slightly elevate their hips for 20 minutes after intercourse, to ensure that more of the sperm comes in contact with the cervix. 20 minutes is an adequate amount of time, because after that time, any sperm that did not enter, will be killed by the differing pH of the vagina. Some women however, choose to use 'instead' cups, which are more commonly used for one's period.

There is also something called 'Fertility Tea', or a similar name. Apparently, it will help you to conceive.

Some women have also tried half a tablespoon of cough syrup for a few days before ovulation, claiming that it helps to thin out the lining of the uterus, hence making it easier for the baby to implant itself into the uterine wall. I'm not sure if it's safe to try, or even if it works - but it's just another tidbit of information for you!

For the average couple, having sex once per day provides the best chance of getting pregnant.

The woman-on-top position isn't great for pregnancy, since ejaculate may flow out.

FACTS:
Most women have a 15 to 25 percent chance of getting pregnant during their cycle.
Nearly 50 percent of couples conceive during the first 3 months.
About 75 percent of couples conceive during the first 6 months.
Up to 90 percent of couples conceive during the first year.
On the average, there are 280 days from the first day of your last period to your due date

The basic principles of a 'fertility diet' are to eat a wide variety of wholegrain cereals to provide zinc, folate and B-group vitamins. You should also include fresh fruit and vegetables to boost anti-oxidants to help immunity, and cut down on alcohol, particularly three months before you want to conceive (that goes for ou are your partner!). Maintaining a healthy weight will also help increase your chances of falling pregnant.

Fertility Foods
Here's a list of some of the foods which can help improve your chances of conception:

Oysters: Rich in zinc, oysters have long been known to help boost live and healthy sperm, which is important for male fertility. Oysters are also reputedly an aphrodisiac, so may help to get you in the mood for a little procreation!

Soy and linseed bread and cereals: These are a great source of phytoestrogens, which help maintain healthy hormone balance. Wth a healthy dose of omega-3 and soluble fibre for slow release energy (they have what's known as a low glycemic index or GI), the long lasting energy helps to maintain a steady release of insulin. This may be important for women who have polycystic ovary syndrome to help optimise ovulation and conception.

Red meat: Lamb and beef are good sources of protein and iron. Protein plays an important role in the formation of semen and the functioning of the testes. Protein and iron also help women maintain healthy hormone levels.

Salmon: And other oily fish such as mullet, trout and herring are high in omega- 3 fatty acids, which are essential for the formation of prostaglandins (present in semen) and the functioning of sex glands.

Green leafy vegetables: These leafy vegies are a great source of folate which is known to reduce the risk of spina bifida and protect against other congenital abnormalities. Other sources of folate include wholegrain cereals, orange juice and broccoli. It's important to boost your folate intake three months before conception.

7 Day Fertility Meal Planner

Day 1:

Breakfast: One serve of oats with honey, made with low fat milk served with canned peaches

Lunch: Sourdough bread with light cream cheese, smoked salmon and rocket, followed by a mandarin or orange

Dinner: Grilled lamb fillet with spinach and tomato salad and olive/canola oil dressing. Stewed fruit with low fat ice cream.

Day 2:
Breakfast: Baked beans on two slices of wholegrain toast. Plus one piece of fresh fruit.

Lunch: Wholemeat toasted sandwich with reduced fat cheese and tomato. A cup of fresh strawberries.

Dinner: Baked salmon fillet served with jacket potato and lightly steamed broccoli. Fresh fruit salad

Day 3:
Breakfast: Banana smoothie made with low fat milk, honey and a teaspoon of LSA*. One slice of soy and linseed bread with vegemite.

Lunch: One small can of tuna with cos lettuce, olives, low fat fetta and salad dressing and one small bagel

Dinner: Stir fried Asian green vegetables with sesame oil and marinated tofu. Followed by canned peaches and a tub of low fat yoghurt.

Day 4:
Breakfast: Poached egg on two slices of grain bread with margarine and grilled tomato

Lunch: Wholegrain pita bread with hummus, green salad and roast beef slices. One piece of fresh fruit.

Dinner: Grilled skinless chicken breast served with tomato and basil sauce and egg noodles. Side dish of green salad.

Day 5:
Breakfast: One cup of whole grain breakfast cereal flakes, low fat milk and canned peaches.

Lunch: Lentil based soup with sourdough roll spread with margarine.

Dinner: Spaghetti Bolognese with one cup of cooked pasta and a sprinkle of parmesan cheese. Side dish of a green salad.

Day 6:
Breakfast: Grilled low fat cheese and tomato and two grain based muffins. Fresh fruit juice.

Lunch: Pumpernickel bread or bagel lightly spread with cream cheese, canned salmon and baby spinach.

Dinner: 200g lean beef steak, grilled, served with large Greek salad. Fruit yoghurt.

Day 7:
Breakfast: Bircher musli (soaked overnight) of rolled oats, grated apple, silvered almonds, honey and low fat yoghurt. Serve with fresh berries.

Lunch: Homemade pizza with wholemeal pita bread, tomato pasta sauce or paste, mushrooms, low fat mozzarella and olives. Green side salad with olive/canola oil dressing.

Dinner: Lean lamb cutlets grilled with lemon juice, sprinkled with olive oil and fresh rosemary. Mashed sweet potato and steamed broccoli.

*LSA (Linseed, sunflower and almond meal) is avaiable from the refrigerated section of most healthfood stores.

Answer 2

I'm sorry that you are getting so many rude unhelpful answers.

As someone who had troubles conceiving our daughter (now pregnant with #2!) I can say that stress has very little to do with fertility, fertility rates actually skyrocket during stressful times like epidemics and wars. Some medical evidence indicates an effect on cycles, but the advice to not worry about it is useless.

A good start is to learn about your own cycles, any fertility specialist will want you to begin charting your cycles using a basal body thermometer, standard cyce charts, and tracking cervix position and other things. A good place to get started is a book called "Taking Charge of Your Fertility", your library might even have it or be able to locate it for you. Once you learn about your own charts you will save time and money with a specialist by walking in there armed with information about your own fertility/menstrual cycles which could possibly tell a lot.

Good luck :)

Answer 3

Before you see a doctor, please read _Taking Charge of Your Fertility_ by Toni Weschler. It will help you determine when your best chances of conceiving are. Moreover, even if you *do* need to see a fertility specialist, the information you get can save you time, money, and discomfort once you do get medical help.

In the meantime, do *not* use any lubricants for sex. They *all* (including saliva) can kill sperm. Have sex every other day. If you know his sperm count is high, once a day will give you a better chance, but since it may not be, give him longer to build up a higher supply. (And for the answer above, 2 days have *48* hours, not 24!!) There is no evidence that elevating your butt after sex helps the sperm find their way, but it can't hurt.

Good luck!!

Answer 4

The first thing I would suggest is charting your cycles to see what's going on. I used the symptothermal method for both conception and contraception and it was very effective and helped me to understand my body.

Have you heard of the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler? It's excellent.

The only other thing I'd add is that for the longest time I thought EVERY woman ovulated around days 12 - 15 of their menstrual cycle. Not so for me... I have a 36 - 38 day cycle, and ovulate about a week later than that. So if I'd been trying to time sex with the "textbook" ovulation time then it would've taken me forever to get pregnant! Seriously, it helps to know what your own body is doing. And if you still have trouble getting pregnant after several months of charting then I'd suggest seeing a doctor and showing him/her your charts so it'll help your doctor make some decisions about how to proceed.

Good luck!

Answer 5

well there are ovualtion kits you can try im doing them now and they are great !!! you buy them at the drug store or any shop that sells pregnancy stuff... you buy an ovulation kit for 5 days it comes with 5 peeing cups and 5 tests you do one test a day for 5 days at the same time every day.... it sort of looks like a pregnancy test but for ovualtion.... it comes up positive when you are at your highest and that means you are going to ovulate in 24 - 36 hours so you have sex on the day you get a positive and the day after....its worked for alot of women thats just an easier thing to try so that when you know you are most fertile you can plan a romantic evening and just enjoy the night instead of worrying the WHOLE month about making sure that you and your husband had sex on certain days so goodluck and for the future CONGRATS

Answer 6

My wife and I have been there. For almost 2 years trying. Are first one happen just as fast as it takes to blink. This last one took work. Fertility drugs for about two years didn't help until finally we said enough. No more drugs and no more trying. The next month we did it. Really time is the key and just relax it will happen when it's suppose to happen. Good Luck.

Answer 7

we my fiance and i have been trying for almost 2 years and havent yet. we got some really good advice from my doctor.

1. DONT make concieving a chore, relax make it fun.
2. Only have sex once every other day, his sperm needs at least 24 hours to regenerate themselves.
3. Track your cycle. Have sex on the day you are ovulating.

And i once read on here that one woman tried something a little odd to me but it worked for her.

- After having sex lay on your back with your knees up for an hour to an hour and a half.

Dont know if that works, but it is worth a try. Good Luck!!!

Answer 8

To get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.

After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex.

After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.

Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 5 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.

Answer 9

If it would make you feel better, go see a specialist. Otherwise, quit stressing over it. Sometimes it just takes awhile. It took my parents 6 years to concieve (before there was help). Stress adds to your inability to concieve.

Answer 10

Get an ovulation test kit, start w/oral sex for good lubrication, and do it doggy style (no joke). Shoulders down to the bed, but up in the air, and back arched downward. This will but you in the best position for conception. It helps if you orgasm before your husband and when he is ready, insert alllllll the way. Good luck.

Answer 11

after a year of trying without success you should see a doctor. because it is easier and cheaper they will probably check your husband first. Dont really want to know but do either of you have a history of STDs ir PID, they can cause problems in conceiving