a week and a half ago i went through some crap with a guy. i snuck out with him (he's 19 and i'm 16), i let him do things to me because i was scared what he would think if i said no. we didn't have sex, but he masturbated and then fingered me alot.
my mom found out a few days ago and she was really understanding and said that she would get me a pregnancy test and that she wouldn't be mad if i promised never to do something like this again. she has issues with depression, and today she refused to get out of bed. and when she did, i said that i still haven't gotten my period and that i really need to get a pregnancy test soon. she just said "great..."and laid back down and went to sleep.later on she went out and when i called her to ask if she could get me a pregnancy test, she hung up on me and when she came home she said that i got myself into this mess and i can get myself out and buy my own test. and she is really being a b**** and not talking 2 me and giving me the evil eye. help?
2006-06-25 16:30:22 · 11 answers · asked by lifeistough_period 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i kno that i was wrong to sneak out and that she has a right to be mad at me, but i still need someone to be there for me, i'm scared to death!!!
2006-06-25 16:31:33 · update #1
I've actually been through something like this before. No worries, your mom will be okay within a couple of days. She's just worried about you, honestly. And if you didn't have sex, don't get a pregnancy test because you don't have to. It doesn't work until your next period anyway. Just wait it out..nothing you say will make her feel better until she's willing to get over it and move on. Good luck girl!
2006-06-25 16:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by nippy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a drug store and buy a pregnancy test yourself. After you take the test , let your mom know the results, and tell her you need her support, either way... next, Go into your bedroom, lock the door and pray, asking GOD for his help, because He loves you and will make a way for you. But, please get away from that guy, he is a sick ,, very sick individual.. . Also you should go to a doctor, because, you said you let him do things to you, but you didn't have sex.. By saying " let him do things" would mean to me that it was your first experience and you are a virgin, prior, and if he did not have sex with you, then you are still intact, and cannot be pregnant.
Don't worry what someone else will think of you, if you say NO, ,
Do you ever wonder what GOD might think of you when you say YES.
But, if you happen to be pregnant, DO NOT abort, the baby will love you for it, and so will it's grandmother...
I'll pray for you....
2006-06-25 16:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by The Mailman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is having a hard time dealing with the possible implications of what you did. And she is right, you got yourself into this mess. You don't need her to buy you a test - you need to buy one yourself. Take responsibility for yourself and don't think that just because she's your mom that she should be this wonderful, supportive, safety net for you. She is a human being whi is just trying to live her life too. She certainly doesn't need you messing it up for her by messing up your own life. She knows full and well that if you ARE pregnant, this is not only your problem, but it is her problem, and in a BIG way. I hope for HER sake that you are not pregnant and take this scare as a way to wisen up really fast. It's not just YOUR life you are screwing up here.
2006-06-25 16:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't have sex with the guy, you shouldn't have to worry about being pregnant. You can't pass this off on your mom. She is prolly upset because this has had time to sink in and she is prolly hurt and disappointed in you. No mother is going to be happy that their 16 year old daughter is starting to be sexually active.
If you have been sexually active with someone else and may be pregnant, than go to like Planned Parenthood, some of them offer free pregnancy tests. Good luck.
2006-06-25 16:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a parent i also would be upset and she will calm down just give her some space and time. as far as a test you said you didnt have sex. i realized he did what he did but did he masterbate inside you? doubtful and i dont imagine you are pregnant if you didnt have sex. its probably the stress of it all causing your nerves to act up which can stop your periods. there should be a clinic near you that does them for free. ask around. and you shouldnt be with a 19 yr old you are under age! stay away its only trouble for you and your mom she already suffers from depression so her reaction will reflect upon that. good luck to you and let me no how it turns out would ya thanks lanay40@yahoo.com
2006-06-25 16:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by lnay69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did all that and your mom knows and haven't done anything to discipline you????
If I did all those things mentioned as you said you did and my mom knew, I would have been dead by now . I wouldn't have to worry about pregnancy test!!!
You're only 16, you shouldn't be sneaking out. Worse things could have happened to you....
2006-06-25 17:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by MissShorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are lying about not having sex. You can get fingered fo hours and no chance of pregnancy. Just the fact that you want a PG test tells me you had sex. I don't blame her. She now knows that she cannot trust you to keep you panties on.
2006-06-25 16:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you was not scared coz u went out to get something anyway so why would u be worried now. if u would stay home u wouldn't have worry about ur mom now. you ask for it now deal with it. next time you'll think about it and stay home
2006-06-25 16:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by sexyred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say your mom is battling depression??? then there's your answer....she has issues going on....people are like that....and i know it is irritating on your part because she said she would be there for you and now she's not......just try to understand your mom....she may be really going through something....and face it, what you did is wrong.....and it does hurt for a mom to hear something like that...instead of keep wanting her to be there for you, why don't you be there for her?? ask her what's wrong and if she doesn't want to tell you, just show her you care and you're there for her.....
2006-06-25 16:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by blue_bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps Mr. masterbater can get you a test. Did any of his juice get on your lips down there?
2006-06-25 16:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by Dave E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋