i just took a pregnancy test and found out i waspregnant but i know its not my boyfriends baby its my cousins boyfriends what should i do i told her that i was pregnant by someone else but her boyfriend knows should i get an abortion
2006-06-25 16:05:33 · 29 answers · asked by clydetta_mckinney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell the truth
2006-06-25 16:07:30 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, you should NOT commit abortion. That will only cause you regret and pain for the rest of your life. No matter how tough your situation seems, nothing is worth taking the life of your own child. Right now you just need to face the facts and do what you need to do to protect the son or daughter inside you. I really recommend that you get fully educated about abortion and your baby's development. Check out these sites:
http://Abort73.com
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.JustTheFacts.org
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/abortionrisks.html
If you need help of any kind, go to a crisis pregnancy center right away. They are used to dealing with situations like this, and they'll be able to sit down with you and talk through everything. They can get you signed up for financial and medical assistance and give you free maternity and baby supplies, too. You can find a center near you here: http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
Your baby is depending on you. Be strong for your child.
2006-06-26 13:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your age. No one can tell you if an abortion is what you need. You need to talk to someone older you can trust. Having an abortion to cover up your lie is going to the extreme. I know you have got to be embarrassed. You will loose a few friends and gain some enemies from this. You can't all ways hide the truth. This not about you or him or her and who ever else might be involved. It's about you and the baby. If you don't come clean now. Latter when ever one finds out (they all ways do) their opinion about you will change forever. You don't want that. Yahoo people we are not judge nor juror. This is a young woman that is asking for advice not condemnation.She has all ready humiliated her self enough. She don't need your help doing it. Any unplanned pregnancy is a scary issue to deal with.
2006-06-25 16:18:11 · answer #3 · answered by LadyRedWild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is a big decision and should not be based upon who the father is. May I ask your age? Do you want the baby? There are so many options besides abortion, although it is also an option - many people tht want children cannot have them - adoption is also an option.
BTW, what are you doing sleeping with your cousin's boyfriend, anyway?
2006-06-25 16:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by MS L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the truth...don't let no man tell you what to do with your body...if your boyfriend really loves you he would be by your side no matter what and if he leaves then you know that he does not love you...the worse that your cousin can do is become angry at you, but she will calm down after a while and realize that she is still your cousin.
You got yourself into this trouble now you have to face the consequences of your actions...you should have never touched your cousins man...that is a big no no
2006-06-25 16:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by Mi-Mi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't kill a baby just because you made a bad choice. You need to tell your cousin the truth. She will not be happy, but she needs to know that her bf is a cheater. And you will need his income to help support the raising of your child. You cannot keep it a secret. Be an adult and own up to what happened. Be a good mom to that child. Good luck.
2006-06-25 16:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by Annette R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of birth control? See if you had been smart enough to at least protect yourself from an apparently unwanted pregnancy you wouldn't have this problem other than sleeping with your cousins boyfriend. You should tell them all.
2006-06-25 16:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by sapphireblaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot provide for this child and it will be a tortured life then abort, a tortured child's life is unbearable to see. Either way, if you abort I hope you can live with the fact that you murdered a child, think about that before you make a rash decision.
2006-06-25 16:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by Sparky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah. first of all, that sucks. but you should probably tell the truth. definitely to the father and your boyfriend. on the abortion,...i don't know do you think you could live with yourself for the rest of your life if you did that? but if you have it are you going to be able to provide for the child? if you cannot adoption might be the best answer, but that will be hard too. you got some hard roads ahead of you. i wish you luck.
2006-06-25 16:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by Christina W. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decide that you do not want to have a baby, please hear me out. There are a lot of people like my wife and I who are unable to have a baby. We depend on people who do not want a baby, but have gotten pregnant. There is a large "market" for babies out there and people like me will pay medical costs, etc. to adopt your baby. We don't care about race or gender. Please talk to someone about adoption. You may find someone you know in a place like I am in, so you will be able to keep in touch with your child, but let someone else raise them. If you don't know anyone who is interested, e-mail me.
2006-06-27 00:51:08 · answer #10 · answered by Randy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a tricky situation. First, decide if you want to keep the child. Then talk to who ever you can and decide how to proceed with the bf/father/cousin.
If all else fails, go on Jerry Springer ;-).
2006-06-25 16:10:31 · answer #11 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋