She will go to sleep if I rock her but only if everyone else in the house tiptoes around. If one little noise rouses her she will be awake for quite a while.
2006-06-25 15:52:54 · 14 answers · asked by ChrisJ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You DO NOT want to hear this but let her cry. I know, i know....I have to say i rocked all 3 of mine (all the time) until the day after their 1st birthdays, then i let them cry. The first nite is pretty bad but hold strong and after about 4 days your set. Also don't go in every 5-10 minutes like the books say. I did this and they would just kick off again. Wait 25-30 min. (my kids dr. told me this) then go in pat them, don't pick her up and leave. It also helps if you have a video monitor then you aren't convincing yourself they are dying (lol). They sell for about $100 at Walmart. Good Luck this is a tough one!!!
It also help to start a routine so she knows it is coming. Bath, read a book, bed every nite!
2006-06-25 16:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by beth l 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I feel your pain. My son didn't fall asleep un-aided, or sleep through the night till he was 18 mos old.
What we did:
Would listen to music and read story, say prayer, and rock for a few min. Then I would whisper, "time to lay down in bed". Then I would put my head next to him (he was in a toddler bed) and stay till he fell asleep. And over the course of a few weeks, we would lay him down, and worked our way further and further from the bed, and finally out the door. He eventually learned.
He is also a very light sleeper, and we were afraid that even the toilet flushing would wake him! We lived like church-mice while he was asleep. "White noise" is the answer. Some parents use a fan, or a humidifier, or anything that has its own 'hummm'. My son has a "fish" lamp....it is a cylander filled with water and 3 plastic fish that glows and bubbles all night long. It creates a very calming noise in his room, which he finds constant and comforting. And that allows us to function at a normal volume while he sleeps.
Good luck. I know it can be really frustrating.
2006-06-25 16:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by momof2kiddos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had precisely the same problem with my first child. He'd be up all night and would only go to sleep on me, or if being walked around and rocked. The slightest noise would awaken him right back up and i'd have to start over again. It got very frustrating as some nights it would be 11pm and he'd still be up, which left NO quiet parent time for oneself.
I finally decided enough was enough when i was pregnant with my second child and could no longer carry him around for hours on end.
I put a radio in his bedroom, on a low level, enough for him to be able to hear, but not loud enough to keep him awake, put books and toys in his crib and settled on a bedtime. I'd put him to bed, read him a book, turn the radio on and leave the room. The first few nights he screamed blue murder for half an hour or so, but i totally ignored him ( callous as it sounds), and within a week, he was settling right in without any fuss. After a few weeks i removed the radio. Then by the time i had my second child i'd learned, to just put him to bed at bedtime and never to rock him off to sleep, and my second child has never been a struggle at bedtime!. Wish i'd realised this with the first!.
2006-06-25 18:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by mandy n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put her in her bed and let her cry, if she get up put her back and don't give in you've started something that is going to be very hard to stop but you have to do it now or you'll be doing it til she's 9 or 10. The first week is the worst and it may sound like she is dying but don't go in there let her cry it won't hurt her! First thing is set a pattern take her into bed, read her a story then tuck her in and tell her it's night-night time his her and leave the room, if she gets up don't say anything just put her in the bed and tuck her back in and say it's night-night time and leave but under no circumstances go back to rocking her to sleep! Eventually she will get it but have to be consistent!
2006-06-25 16:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why get her to fall asleep on her own? Enjoy holding her & rocking her while you can they grow soooo fast. One day you'll wish you could go back & rock her again. So don't worry about getting her to fall asleep on her own, not yet anyway. Enjoy having her close to you, right where I'm sure she wants to be. My son is 11 now & I'd give anything to hold him & rock him like I used to do (for hours). Took him forever to fall asleep sometimes but I absolutely delighted in every single minute even when I was exhausted. Enjoy your baby girl she's gonna grow up to fast on ya. God bless & best of luck.
2006-06-25 16:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sugar Dumplin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be hard to do but sometimes it is the only way. Put her in her crib, close the door and under no circumstance go in and pick her up. Be prepared for her to scream and cry but don't cave. It dosen't hurt her to cry. After a while she will learn to comfort herself and know that crib time is sleep time. Remember to be strong because you are setting the standard of discipline for the rest of her precious life.
2006-06-25 15:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by angellike67114 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick her in her bed. Leave her there. She will fall asleep.
If she wakes up because she is disturbed but it is nowhere near time to get up. Leave her there. She will fall back to sleep, eventually.
After awhile she will get use to it. One of my sons went through a stage where he screamed for 30 or 40 minutes everytime he was put to bed. I got some ear plugs for me and his mom and he got over it and learned to go to sleep more easily and sleep more soundly.
He appears to be a well adjusted 25-yr old now. And wo, you should have seem him sleep when he was 16.
2006-06-25 16:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by enginerd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep things 'normal' in the noise department during the day... and only quieter and darker at light. Be sure she's getting 1 nap for about 2 hrs every day. Holding and reassuring her is good and you can't spoil a baby with love, affection and comfort.
2006-06-25 15:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by Brown Id Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my now two year old daughter, i learned that what she makes her comfortable enough to sleep is my scent so every night i put her to sleep i put one of my old shirts that i wear all the time next to her so that she can smell me all night it really works soo give it a try and see what happens
2006-06-25 16:13:23 · answer #9 · answered by night solider lolo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a very hard thing to do. This probly sound a little but my nephew did the same thing, my sister played this soft classic music we got form gerber on some head phones it kept him sleep and calm but that might not work with all babies.
2006-06-25 15:59:21 · answer #10 · answered by victoria Raynisha C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋