I just ended a very long relationship and I'm feeling kinda lonely and while it's only been a year since we've ended it, I'm wondering if I'll ever find someone who compliments me. Do you ever feel like you can do the whole relationship thing again after a divorce?
2006-06-25 15:52:48 · 14 answers · asked by ooolala 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay how much is a ticket to Hawaii? I hear they have a hot male population!
2006-06-26 09:45:06 · update #1
i got out of a long relationship too. I think that if it was a year ago, you may be holding on. even if you're not holding on, I think that you should come to love you as a you and not as a you and him. It's a wonderful thing, being in a relationship and having soneone care about you. but all the same, it's wonderful to be single and to grow as an individual. I wish you the best of luck with what ever happens, but just as an ending thought... the greatest thing in the world is to know haw to belong to oneself. (montaigne)
2006-06-25 16:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by andygirl256 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. I was married 15 years only to find my ex had been cheating for almost half the time. I've been divorced 4 years now and can say I am SO happy to be divorced. It takes time to get to that point. So be patient with yourself. Surround yourself with good friends and family. It's also a good time to reclaim the person sometimes lost in the relationship. The first year or two are the hardest. That's ok. Don't rush into dating just to stop being lonely. I can tell you first hand-it's better being alone than with some of the dates you'll find now. Take the time to be good to yourself. Go to the gym. travel. Learn a new hobby. whatever. Just have fun and focus on you for a change. And while you're out there enjoying life and focusing on YOU- it'll be then that things will change for you. Good luck. Write again if you need to.
2006-06-25 16:54:28 · answer #2 · answered by ShellRe' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am coming up on a year since my wife left me and divorced me. I completely understand what you mean. Right after she left, it was easy to date girls, go out, be cool with them and kinda have a relationship, but when I could feel their love start to build towards me or I started liking them, I pulled away. It has been about 2 months since I really went out on a date, my choice.
I assume I can do the entire relationship thing again. However, I don't know that I will ever be able to give up my entire heart and soul to someone ever again, which is completely wrong and unfair. I just feel like I will always have some sort of guard because the love of my life absolutely destroyed me.
I guess I will be able to find someone that compliments me. I know there are plenty of fine females out there that aren't going to cheat, gold dig, stomp on my heart, etc. It is just hard for me to imagine sharing the same intense love that I experienced with my wife. Maybe it isn't that important? I don't know.
I will not just be with someone so that I am not alone. I don't think a persons happiness should be dependant upon a relationship. However, I know life is much more fulfilling with a partner. I am lucky. I have more friends than most people know. I can go on vacation with friends; hang out on my boat with friends; have people over every weekend to chill at my crib. It just isn't the same though.
I am rambling, I apologize. I just wonder if anyone feels the way I do.
2006-06-25 16:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by Cing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gimmie a high five on that one. I feel exactly the same way. It takes SO long to get to the point where you can be 100% YOU with someone. And when that's gone, how do you start over with someone new? How do you learn to trust somebody like that because what if they up and leave? I just want somebody to love me unconditionally like I love them. Is that person out there? And if they are....where the heck are they? I'm with you, I WANT to do the whole relationship thing again, but I'm scared to death of it all. I wish I had a good solid answer for you. We're in the same boat.
2006-06-25 16:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married and divorced within a year's time and just got out of a serious relationship. I know how you feel. There is someone for everyone. Hang in there!!
2006-06-25 16:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Keith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been almost two years since my last girlfriend. (Where has the time gone)? I'm in my mid-forties and I'm starting to believe that I'll stay single for the rest of my life.
2006-06-25 16:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-09 01:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it was wonderful dream... Then I woke-up married with two kids, a thankless job and time to spend on the computer. LOL
2006-06-25 15:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Reepete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I already embrace the single life. Sad? Yeah, I know.
2006-06-25 16:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by SlothMachine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a sexy babe like you? forget long term relationships - get out there and drive the male population wild for awhile!!
2006-06-26 09:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋