2006-06-25 15:16:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First, know that they can NOT force you to get one. There are many programs available that will help you when choosing to keep your child. It's your decision, not theirs. Try your local Right To Life chapter or even Planned Parenthood
I got pregnant at 17, I now have a beautiful 2 year old who has a 1 year old sister. Both have the same dad and both make me VERY happy!!! I'm an optimistic person, can't you tell? lol
2006-06-25 15:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
Ok, like someone else said, they can't MAKE you have one anyway, so relax (a little). I'm hoping that you're not THAT young, because unlike what someone else said, not everyone is as lucky to have great kids so young and be happy. So, keep in mind, this IS a lifetime commitment, and whatever you choose it will effect you for the rest of yours. Adoption is not a bad option either. I mean, can you honestly provide the kind of life this child deserves? Remember they don't ask to be here, and if you have to struggle to survive, is it fair for them? On the other hand, if you have supports in place and can truly care for this child, monetarily, physically, and emotionally, then I wish you all the luck in the world. You need to know what you want and need, and when and if you already do, then just stand up with your convictions and tell your parents your honest feelings and hopefully they will see your side. Like I said before, even if you dont' believe in abortion, adoption can be a great option, esp. if it's an open one. I'm just saying, Weigh your options, do what's best for you AND your unborn child. Right now, it's just a few cells, but those cells will soon be a living breathing, eating, pooping, crying, keeping you up all night, costing you a lot of money, etc...being. Make your decision based on all of the information...I hope this helped a little. And those that read this and don't agree with me, that's fine. It's a free country, we can agree to disagree.
2006-06-25 22:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by cherilynnc6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~~if you can get a copy of it there is a movie called dear children, that deals with post abortion issues, what the dad and the mom of the aborted baby goes through... this is an excellent resource. also if you need it, i have a consent form that was from planned parent hood that was translated into plain English from the big medical and legal terms which explains a good percentage of the risks involved in the abortion procedure. Tiffany is correct, they can not force her to have an abortion. hang tough. i hear in your other questions the love you have for this baby and the baby's mother. there is help out there. Congrats to you all.
below is a link to a PowerPoint that was written in the prospective of from the unborn baby to the daddy, where the baby is telling the daddy how much he or she loves the dad... and talks a lot about development. if you do not have PowerPoint on your computer, there is a free power point viewer out there, contact me and I'll get the web addy for it if you need it. Good luck to you and the mommy.~~
2006-06-26 19:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them it will haunt you for the rest of your life cos it will. I've never had an abortion but i did have a miscarriage and even though it was out of my control i couldnt help blaming myself for a long time. My dad forced my mom to have an abortion after i was born and he was distraught when i had the miscarriage and said he was being punished for the abortion decision.
I miss my baby that i lost so much even after 2 years and i know the pain will never go away. I can only imagine that the pain would be way worse for an abortion.
Finally if they dont agree remember that it is really not their decision. It is yours and you can say no. When the baby is finally born they will come around.
2006-06-25 22:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by Moonling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you know all the facts about abortion, and share those with the parents if possible. Abortion not only kills a baby, but is very dangerous for the mom as well. Check out:
http://Abort73.com
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.JustTheFacts.org
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/abortionrisks.html
For free help, go to a pregnancy care center near you. They can get the mom signed up for financial and medical assistance and provide her with free maternity and baby supplies. They can also give her counseling with or without her family members and boyfriend, and some centers can also give her a free ultrasound (a great way for her parents to SEE their grandbaby!). If necessary, they can help the mom find a safe place to stay during her pregnancy. The pregnancy care center will help the mom and dad get a plan together for how they are going to meet the challenges in their life, and that will help the baby's grandparents to be less stressed about it, too. All their services are free and confidential. You can find one near you at: http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
Do whatever it takes to protect this baby. He or she is depending on you!
2006-06-26 19:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically you just tell your parents that it is your decision. If your parents are forcing you to get an abortion and you are against it, then they are harming you. You are having the baby, not them. So I do not think that they should have a say in having the baby at all. It is none of their business whether you keep the child or not. If they want to help you, then fine. But deciding whether the unborn child lives or dies is going just a step too far.
2006-06-26 16:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by spyder90tishuez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that you have created a life and you are not prepared to snuff out the life of something from GOD. This is a sin, not a form of birth control. Mommy and daddy may be a little embarrassed within the community, too bad. Their concerns should be for you and their grandbaby. There are plenty of adoption agencies who would be willing to talk to you, if you feel not prepared to take this baby.
I have 2 friends who had abortions and both have regretted it and are very sickened each Mothers day that passes. Life is short, please consider not ending you little babies before it even has a chance. And if you must decide follow you instincts and heart and soul. THOSE are the things that set us apart from the barbarians of the world who have no regard for human life, Good luck honey and I will pray that you make the moral decision.
2006-06-25 22:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by Brainiac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i would reccomend finding the info on the effect on a womans body and also mentally an abortion has. also talk about the pain the baby has to go through. believe it or not abortion is the only medical procedure dr's do not have to state every part of the procedure to the patient. that right there is kind of scary.
do not go through with it. you will regret it and it will come back to haunt you. no matter what stick to your guns, and protect yourself and your baby
2006-06-26 02:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by casskatt113 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to them in great detail, of what your plans are. Do some research. How will you support yourselves, will you get help from the government, will you get a job, will the father work? Either way, you don't have to have an abortion if you don't want to, but it helps to tell them your plans to ease the blow.
2006-06-25 22:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lot of sleep beofre u do,because your going 2 hear a ear full,have u condiered adoption or foster,if your not ready u can do foster and get your child back when u get ready,but there probley not going to be happy,mabey write a letter and leave in there car,good luck
2006-06-25 22:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Mariah™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋