What do you think about being married to someone who has sex with you everytime you had a child. The first time my baby was 9 days old and my bottom was still full of stitches. He got mad if I didnt though. I felt like a piece of meat from the butcher shop. He never even cared what could happen to me.
2006-06-25 15:02:43 · 16 answers · asked by kathy G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow that is extreme. My husband was kind of like that too, but closer to the 3-4 week postpartum mark. For the longest time I felt sad and used and hurt, and let him get his way , but in the long run I found that only makes things worse and he does'nt even realize what he is doing is wrong. You need to stand up for yourself and say no and mean it. Alot of the time these guys are so focused on their penises and egos that they forget that we are people too, and letting him get away with it is only reinforcing the bad behavior. My husband actually thinks I am just playing hard to get when I say no and give reasons why.
have you ever noticed that the bitchiest chicks have the sweetest most passive caring guys ? I have ! It works to be a ***** sometimes, and tell him off, because you need to demand his respect not ask for it. So what if he gets mad or pissy, just ignore him until he wisens up. If he wants some action he will come around eventually and treat you the right way to get it !
2006-06-25 15:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't jump on me until you read everything I say... as a man, I can understand the desire that he would have, because I am assuming that you probably didn't have sex for some time before the birth. That being said, the desire for the health of the woman I puport to love for me at least would be much stronger... if I needed to relieve sexual tension, there are plenty of other ways. Either oral sex, or do-it-yourself... the woman's health is more important by FAR.
I think he's a selfish creep who places his own needs above yours to the detriment of you... and he puts you at real physical risk. That is NEVER right. Dump his butt.
2006-06-25 16:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by Bubbajones 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way he is going to understand is that she explains it to him. If he continues to be insensitive then she have to physically show him how it feels to be a piece of meat on a butcher's block.
2006-06-25 15:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Chocolette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy can't hurt you or damage you unless you allow yourself to be. If you have to stay with this guy because you think that you can't find anybody else or because of financial reasons tell him "I can't please you right now because I have to take care of myself and my well being. I'd appreciate it if you respected that. I wouldn't force you to do anything you didn't want to do." Then leave the room. Don't sit there and argue with this guy or let him argue with you. It's not worth it. You also can't force someone to care about you. You have to love and care about yourself first. Overtime, if you've tried your hardest in your relationship and he didn't do anything, you'll probably leave this guy on your own naturally in your own time when you get fed up with him. Or who knows, he might change!
2006-06-25 15:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an insensitive jerk, I waited 8 weeks before having sex, It was very painful even after waiting, How could he even want to get that close to you knowing your insides are so messed up from giving birth, sounds like he has issues???
2006-06-25 15:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by Orange Peel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this guy has major issues. You deserve so much better than that. What kind of man did you marry?! Pray for him cause that behavior cant be morally right
2006-06-25 15:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by Temica W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defiantly a jerk with no concern for your well being. I feel really bad for you just having a baby and being married to someone so selfish.
2006-06-25 15:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's awful! Let him get mad, it isn't worth hurting yourself over. You deserve someone that cares about you!
2006-06-25 15:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by girlysledgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sound like a real a--hole dont let him do it stand up for yourself .I know men think they can bully women if he trys it again take a broom handle and shove it up his a--. That will cure him...
2006-06-25 15:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by Tracy #1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much actually ..I had a friend who's husband was doing the same thing ...
2006-06-25 15:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋