I often fear to tell people NO, when I dont want to do what they want me to do
2006-06-25 14:55:35 · 8 answers · asked by Canela 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It takes a lot of telling yourself you are not going to be used as someone elses door mat any longer. You have to learn to stick up for yourself because no one else will do it for you. It took me a long time before I could tell someone NO and sometimes I find myself almost saying yeah sure I'll do that for you. It's hard but if you don't learn now it gets even harder. Good luck
2006-06-25 15:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by lostinlove 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Telling people NO is NOT a bad thing. You have that right. I suggest reading books on the matter and practicing on the small things. I too had the same problem, however being assertive is a GOOD thing.
2006-06-25 14:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by RONNIEKAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I used to be like that too. If you don't do it now, you will always get used. People will respect you more if you do your own thing instead of always saying yes. Believe me, when I stopped saying yes I got such a different reaction from people, and it wasn't a bad one. They actually started seeing me as a person instead of just using me all the time. I have so much more confidence in myself now. It feels good to finally be able to trust myself.
2006-06-25 15:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by mandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you try and please people the more they will take advantage of you. Knowing you are equal to or better than they are is one way to deal with your problem. When you say no let them know why and that you think they are real butt heads for even asking something so dumb. You let them know you value yourself more than to let them control you. Stand strong for if you cave in now the future will only hold heartache for you. Those that value you will not push you to do dumb stuff or things that are below you. Know that when they try to take advantage of you they are insulting you.
2006-06-25 15:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunn, you need to start to be up front about things. Just tell them you do not feel comfortable with it. If you don't start telling people how you feel, you will only regret it later on.
Never do something you dont feel comfortable with doing.
2006-06-25 14:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by xcelticsbabee34x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to say no all the time. Sometimes you can give people exactly what they ask you for, but give it to them in such a way that they never ask again.
ex. they ask you for something but you demand something in return.
the bad thing about saying yes all the time is that people will ask you for anything. So sometimes you just have to puff your chest out and say: heel naw!
2006-06-25 15:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to start giving shorter answers to all people's questions or comments.
2006-06-25 15:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't people tell you no.......... just do it and it will get easier the more you say no. You will feel better.
2006-06-25 14:58:40 · answer #8 · answered by Coodles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋