im pregnany by a married man and he wants to be a part of the babies life what should we do about it?

Answer 1

Sassy is right - you should consider leaving him. Once a cheater, always a cheater is usually the case. I know a couple women who have even gotten their married man to leave his wife, only to have him leave them in a few years for a new mistress.

What does he have in mind, I wonder. To leave both you and your child waiting for him to have time and a good excuse so he can spend time with you as a "family"? That sounds terrible for you, but mostly for the child - a part-time daddy is bad enough, but to be the runner up all the time would be devastating over the years.

I think you must consider giving up the child or planning to raise it alone. Sometime this makes for a super strong bond between mother and child - one that would not have happened any other way. It could be a blessing for you - of course the choice is yours. What do you want to do?

Answer 2

No matter what, he is the father and deserves some kind of rights. Also the child will want to know his/her father one day. But this all needs to come out in the open at this point. You could have hidden an affair but not a baby, especially if he wants to have some connection. You all need to bite the bullet and man up for the things you did wrong, and try to make it as right as you can.

Answer 3

well i think that its great that he is willing to step up to his responsabilities but unless he is ready to tell his wife and deal with that drama he needs to deal with this situation as if he is having an affair (not far from the truth) and help by paying for things if he doesnt keep his word then i would petition him for a dna test and then go to court for child support but since he is atleast saying that he wants to do the right thing then wait and see when the baby is born cause then its a whole new ball game good luck and have fun being a mom

Answer 4

What can you do? He is the childs father and he has rights to be in the childs life. That is the risk you take when you get into complicated relationships.

If you really don't want him in the child's life go to court for full custody and see if he shows up. If he really doesn't want his wife to figure out he will not show up and you will get sole custody. But that will not do justice to your child, and the child will most likely grow to resent you for keeping him/her from their father.

Answer 5

this is a really tough one. Does he say that he wants to leave his wife? Well..... let's face it. He ain't leaving his wife. I know you have hopes that he will, but........ Leave him, and not the other way around. As for the kid... A single parent is hard. Maybe you should get a really good job and find a nice, UNMARRIED, boy friend. And by that I mean one who isn't afraid of commitment.

Answer 6

I think your crazy to have gotten pregnant at such a young age. especially to a married man you need a counselor or some one else who can kind of steer you in the right direction now. but to be honest i feel sorry for you.......

Answer 7

you cant keep the child from the father, that would be very wrong if you did, that because you guys both cheated with each other, and he can go to court and get full custody of the child, so be smart and let him see the child

Answer 8

my name if kristen kennedy and if your married to the man i think you should let him be in the baby life unless he cheated on you don't take him back just let him see the baby

Answer 9

i would tell him to talk to his wife about it and since hes married i wonted try to be with him but i would let him be around the baby

Answer 10

Another stupid question by another stupid ho.