My wife and I were married 3 years and are now getting a divorce.
She is being very immature and selfish about the whole situation and wants alimony and most of the stuff in the house. She is 22 years old and is perfectly capable of taking care of herself. My question is why does alimony exist?? I mean since we have been married all she has done is watch tv and gain weight and now i have to pay her money for the next few years when i feel like she is the one who owes me.
2006-06-25 13:56:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was married for 10 years and have a kid and my ex was controlling would not let me drive or have a pay check and the judge still said no Alimony get a attorney
2006-06-25 15:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by twistedsingle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are right, she is 22 and she can take care of herself. Its seems like ya married very young and she was not ready. Myself is going through something similar, I am 25, however I have been married for 7 years and have two kids. Alimony has not crossed my lips. Child support at a reasonable rate is something different.
Do your research, talk to a lawyer and state your case. I believe that 3 yrs is not long enough, however if she did not work because YOU did not want her too, then you might be in trouble.
2006-06-25 21:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by RONNIEKAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't call it alimony any more it's called spousal support. And if she did not work while you were married and it was OK by you then most of the time they will get an amount for a while. She was accustomed to that life style during the marriage and the court takes that into concentration. Makes you think twice about a non working partner doesn't it. Well just chalk it up to experiences and learn from it. Good luck.
2006-06-25 21:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Years ago women took care of the home and family, she didn't have an outside job so she didn't have any job skills. Alimony was so that she could take care of herself.....kinda like severance pay. Very seldom are women awarded alimony now. You wife can ask for alimony but unless she's incapable of working she'll get ZERO. So stop worrying.
2006-06-25 21:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
State of IL, MI, IN, and I think OH too, you have to be married at least 7 years to get alimony. And even then, you'd pay half that term for a specified amount, not %age.
Get a lawyer, you'll be able to get it all and leave her in the cold as she desires to do to you!
2006-06-25 21:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most states, alimony is only available in a long term marriage. "Long term" means different things in different places, but I am willing to be 3 years is not
"long term" anywhere.
2006-06-25 21:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by Attorney Howard Iken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alimony is for people , during a divorce, who have stayed at home, watched your kids, cleaned your house, washed your dirty, stanky drawers, etc.She was married to you and put up with you and deserves to get what she put in.She didn't get paid to do all those things, all those years, so now she will.Give it to her and then go on with your life.You wanted a divorce, now you got one.But at what price????That's why we take vows and are suppose to mean them, huh????
2006-06-25 21:07:08 · answer #7 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 yrs is considered a short term marriage.
ur alimony should be minimal if anything at all.
GET A CUT-THROAT PITBULL LAWYER
**** her
2006-06-25 21:01:20 · answer #8 · answered by bo_hic_a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what was the cause of the divorce and get a good lawyer
2006-06-25 21:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on why you are getting a divorce.. if you screwed up you need to pay.. if she did she needs to pay ( her own way)
2006-06-25 21:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋