I have always been a very open and sexual person. My wife is, well NOT. I always feel like I am begging to have sex or have to earn the right to. I have talked with her about how important sex is to me. I have tried EVERYTHING I can think of. I ask her what I can do, how she would like it done... all that...but nothing. She doesn't even like talking about it.... HELP
2006-06-25 13:22:04 · 16 answers · asked by Just G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nothing you can do .... rent porn... sorry dude
2006-06-26 17:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by Just B 2 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Try other things and don't expect sex every time. Cuddling, touching, kissing, etc. A woman needs more than a man's hard-on to get them in the mood. Most men only think of themselves and could care less if the woman is ready and willing then fulfilled. Perhaps you should ask her what she likes (and not in front of your buds or anyone else). Try what she likes and go from there. If she don't want to talk about it - work on figureing it out yourself. She may not be that cold fish after all.
2006-06-25 13:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would presume you did not engage in premarital sex, or this would have been a factor that would have been tackled prior to marriage. I don't condone premarital sex, but this is one reason that I can see doing it, to make sure both partners are sexually compatible in desire and level of craziness.
You're married now, nothing much you can but beg and plead every so often.
Have you asked if she enjoys sex with you? Maybe you're not lasting long enough so that she gets her orgasm. It just might be you bore her...
If you have children already... then that's a totally different monster. If you don't have children and your sex is already bad, then don't have children or you can kiss sex good bye...
2006-06-25 13:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your wife is dealing with long held ideas on sex that many people grow up learning. sex is bad and wrong and if your a good girl and a good wife and mother you don't do those kind of things. personally i think that's crap and i love sex in all forms.with people like that their are only a few things you can do . try to show her the fun side of sex and be really flirty with her . take things back to when you guys were dating . show her that it's not just about the sex but it's more about you and her getting back the connection that made you fall in love. the sex will come
good luck
2006-06-25 13:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by frsttmshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek Godly counseling. It may be that she was abused at some point. Males and females who were abused as children or even started having sex prematurely often have difficulty as adult in sexual relations. Try to be understanding that something may be wrong. You did not marry solely for sex. Trust me, if you are patient and work on this, your sex life will improve drastically.
2006-06-25 13:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am sorry but you married her knowing she wasn't a sexual person and you cannot change her.If you have already talked to her and that hasn't worked, then I guess your in a corner.Masterbation is your last option.It's not something to get a divorce over.
2006-06-25 13:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play hard to get. In other words leave her alone for a while. A lot of women hate to be smothered. She might just start making the moves, once you leave her be a while!
2006-06-25 14:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by Emily :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably go to a sex therapist. You might have to start at the beginning, the whole rediscovering each other. But we forwarned, you may discover that she doesn't like you
2006-06-25 13:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by paulie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with cuddling and holding her. You can then start nibbling on her ears or neck. Then just massage her and focus on what she wants and needs. You pet her and do it right you should get some. If not I am so sorry!!
2006-06-25 13:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by tjamesmomof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women go thru periods where they aren't as sexual as they were...depending on her age, what's going on in your lives..things like that..not knowing how old she is...if you have small kids or not, it's really hard to answer this...women tend to drop off in sexual appetites, but the good side to all of this...usually when they hit round 40...watch out..it could be you saying you don't want it...
2006-06-25 13:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to offend your marriage, but shouldn't you have asked her about something that was that important to you, before you were married...?
2006-06-25 15:52:07 · answer #11 · answered by way_noworlater@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋