what shall she do to the baby of man who raped her
2006-06-25 13:12:55 · 10 answers · asked by sofey 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
A girl, now matter what the age, the only way to overcome that and any kind of trauma is to leave it in Gods hands. Of course you're hurt. You're angry. You probably feel ashamed, dirty, and God knows what other terrible feelings. But the truth of the matter is that you need to forgive him. Find a good christian church where you can get some GOOD christian counseling, and they can help you through this process. You see, when you forgive, you're letting it go. But when you hold on to it, you're only hurting yourself, therefore, he's only hurting you even more, only this time you're letting him because you can say," I won't let you hurt me anymore, I forgive you, and may God forgive you." Then God can work in your heart, and heal your wounds, and fill your heart with love, with joy, with peace. And then you will be able to help other girls who are going through the same thing, and you'll be able to say," You know what, I've been there, I've done that. There is solution for that."
As far as having a child as a consequence of this violation. The bible says that children are a blessing. Sweety, you don't know if you are carrying the next Billy Graham, the next Martin Luther King Jr.. Jesus loves YOU, and He's right there with you, all you have to do is call out to him, and he will answer you. Seek him, and you will find him. ( Oh, and yes, I too can say, I've been there, I've done that.)
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God; to them who are called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28
2006-06-25 17:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by princeopeace7 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I do not personally believe in abortion, but unless you have a husband or a fiance who is willing to adopt the baby and be the father, I would put it up for adoption. Even though this is the child you will love, this child will be a reminder to you everyday of your bad experience. But, this is something you have to decide on for yourself. You need to decide which would be best. Are you ready to be a mother? Could you handle raising the child? Could you handle putting the baby up for adoption. If you had an abortion, would you regret it? I have been raped, but I didn't get pregnant. I stayed with the guy because I was scared of him because he threatened my life. I now wish I had the courage to run from him then, instead of 2 years later. Whatever you do, do not let him into your life just because you are pregnant with his child. It will lead to more problems. You will be unhappy and scared and will most likely entail more abuse from this creep. You never get completely over it, but you learn to deal with it so that you can move on with your life. If you decide to keep the child, I would make sure he is forced to sign over his rights. You do not need a monster trying to be involved in your life and he can be for 18 years if you don't prevent him from doing so. Also, please go see a counselor or you will be miserable and forget who you are. Depression and fear are hard to live with. Trust me, I know....personal experience.
2006-06-25 13:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by A B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not agree with abortions but there is an exeption for every individual case. In YOUR case, I suggest you terminate the pregnancy. Every day that you look at that child (if you go through with the pregnancy) you will just be reminded of the horrid event that gave you the child in the first place. You don't really want that hanging over your head. It's bad enough that you will never forget you were raped, don't add more "salt to the wound". Sorry that happened to you. Best of luck with the decisions you make.
2006-06-25 13:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by pink_phish22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
abort it those things can be passed down. he might become a racist. I don't know your a strong women if you can handle it I was raped and if I had gotten pregnant I wouldn't have been able to look at there childs face everyday
2006-06-25 13:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know two mothers who had babies who were products of rape. they love these children as much as their other children.
as for the man, go to the police and get him charged with rape, if at all possible. you deserve justice.
2006-06-25 18:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by realmomof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say talk to a counselor keep the baby because its not tha babies fault
2006-06-26 18:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would definiately talk to someone asap. rape is a very traumatic experience for a woman..seek help thru your pastor, counselor or rape counselor
2006-06-25 13:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by VivaciousandSexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely talk to a counselor.
2006-06-25 13:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love the child ... hurt the man
2006-06-25 18:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by DaBigBadWolfe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put him on childs support he deserves it and go to jail
2006-06-25 14:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋