is it ok for baby to cry?

Question

my baby was a premature (7mo) well the nurses told me to carry him often b-cuz he needs to feel safe ect... well now im a stay at home mom and as soon as he cries i go pick him up make sure he is ok. well now he is 4mo. and i cant leave the room without him crying even if hes asleep its like he doesnt feel my precense. well my mom told me to let him cry every once in a while that i wouldnt want to spoil him. so sometimes i let him cry a little.
so i dont know what to do is it safe or not . is it ok or what? i hate to hear him cry but but i cant do anything without him crying.
oh and yes i check to see if he needs to be changed , fed, temp. ect. please help me i dont want to cause any damage to my baby

Answer 1

Yes letting him cry is a good idea it will not hurt him now I hated hearing my son cry when he was that age another thing I would do so I wouldnt go insane is try to find something that holds his attention and let him play with/watch that toy. Also as you leave the room constantly talk to him so he can hear your voice and know that you have not "left him for ever". Also when I would cook I would place a blanket on the floor at the treshhold of the door but so he was not in the kitchen but so he could still see me that entertained him as well. Good luck.

Answer 2

all I can say is try to break that habit now or you'll never get a sitter or some mommy time on a regular basis. try putting a small mist of your perfume or body spray on a blanket and leave near the foot of babies bed. smell is big for them right now. Also try putting baby in a bouncer bit and talk to him face to face and slowly increase the distance this way he knows your there and paying attention without having to touch. The other thing that worked for me was lying him down in his bassinet and then running the vacuum it's loud but has a strangely soothing hum. and mine love it when I sing to them. He will get over it but you have to be able to deal with a few days full of cries. and as a mommy you know the difference between an I want you cry and an I need you cry.

Answer 3

If you've done all you can to soothe him and he's still unhappy, he might have gas or colic. Try massaging his belly gently and pushing his kness toward his stomach to help release gas. Has the Dr. checked him over? Sometimes it could be an ear infection. Does he stop crying in the car? I used to put my baby in a car seat and sit it on the dryer with the dryer running to calm my young child. If he is able to move or rock the seat he's too old, but it's worth a try. You could hurt him more if you become too frustrated than if you let him cry. You sound like you want to do what's best. Sometimes what is best is to get a babysitter and take a break. Good luck!

Answer 4

Don't let your baby cry. He is communicating in the only way he can. He needs you. He wants you to hold him, soothe him, love, love, love him. When he is old enough he will be walking and he will be walking away from you. He will be running away from you. I mean he will be independant of you when he is ready. Holding your baby is not spoiling him. You are meeting one of his basic needs. The sense of touch. Do not deprive him of this. Held babies are more contented because they are more secure. Enjoy your baby and hang the housework. Ask for help around the house if you need. Time will come for dusting, cleaning etc etc later. I help my daughter by cleaning the baby's bottles and making up his feeds. Her room is a tip, but so what? The baby is tended to and very happy. So is his Momma. We are lucky as we have a home help for the laundry and cleaning though and we also live with my Mom and she does the cooking. We are all very spoiled in our house!!! (I'm the one out to work bringing in the moula)

Answer 5

It's fine to let your baby cry for a while if it's just because he wants you there. My son was ill as a newborn and constantly had to have some one in the room with him because of different medical problems he was having and once he finally got better he was the same way and we would make him cry for a while if there wasn't anything wrong with him. He is a happy 6 month old and he no longer minds being in a room by himself.

Answer 6

I believe that it is okay to let him cry if that feels right to you
If you are uncomfortable with him crying then don't do it because the baby will pick up the distress in you and it is unhealthy for both of you
Love him and hug him all the time he will only be small for a little while then he will not care if you are there all the time or not

Answer 7

Crying is a baby's only means of communicating with you. Little ones have only three basic needs in the early months; human touch, food, and sleep. They are growing at an incredibly fast pace, and having those needs met enables them to grow at the optimum rate.
You are raising a human being, not a manipulator. Your child needs you. It's not going to hurt him to cry once in a while, but the old advice to let the baby cry it out is baloney. If crying is good for his lungs, does that mean that bleeding is good for his veins?

Answer 8

It's the hardest thing in the world to have a crying baby. But let me assure you, it's ok. Let him cry for 5 minutes. Go to him to reassure him that you are still there. Maybe give him a pacifier, hold him for a minute. Then put him down again. As long as you don't let your self get out of control due to his crying, it's ok. He has just been used to you coming to his every whimper. He will learn, as long as you are consistent. Either constantly hold him, or do the other. As long as you know he doesn't need anything, it's fine. He's plenty old enough to cry it out.

Answer 9

You love your baby very much don't you? You sound like a wonderful attentive mother! I remember how my wife and I were with out first born-every little thing freaked us out, and we stressed over every "decision"in how to raise her. Are we holding her too much, too little, are we trying to make her go to fast with things like solid food, etc. And here is what the doctors told us: Your baby knows that you love her and care for her. There are no hard and fast rules for children. They all seem to have their own personalities A lot of what we think our babies need is what WE think they need (and that isn't a bad thing-it's called instinct). But obviously you have come up against something where you know something isn't right.
As long as you have taken care of the "needs" i.e. diaper, feeding, temperature, etc. It is ok to let a baby cry a little bit. My doctor told us to put her in her crib and if she cries, comfort her but don't take her out of the crib. It may take a while but eventually she would get used to it. And developmentally it would be better. She knows you are there to comfort her, but you don't start the cycle of needing to be held to sleep or even to just be content.
Just remember you can't love your baby too much, but you can train them to need you too much. It's hard to relax with your first , or any baby, But don't worry, it's less stressful for you and ultimately less stressful for the baby if you define some healthy boundries now.

Answer 10

I think you should do what you feel is best. My daughters were the same way. I couldn't leave sight of them. Yes it was frustrating and I needed my time, but, in the end it is all worth it. I didn't listen to what everyone said, I held that baby. Then, when they were older and able to understand and communicate better, I got a little more strict. Crying is your baby's way of communicating with you. If you ignore it, what is that saying to your baby?