can young marriage be successful?

Question

lets say age's 18-20. Give as much detail as you can

Answer 1

Quante,

I got married when I was 23, divorced when I was 30. For me, it didn't work, and for too many reasons to get into here.

I have a co-worker who met her husband when they were 19, got married 2 months later, and 30 years later are still very happily married. I'm sure you know of couples like that, too.

My point is that you can't say for sure. However, I do want to tell you that typically, a guy goes for a different girl when he is 20 compared to when he is 30, compared to when he is 40. I'm not saying your relationship is doomed, far from it, but if you don't grow together, it is toast.

Also, this is very important...when the hot, steamy attraction dies down (and it will) you will be left with a totally different deal. Maybe not as much for you, but very much for him. Say what you want, but a 20-year old has enough testosterone in his blood to kill a horse. He is thinking with his dick. Once the sex becomes routine, or even boring, will he still love you? I'm not saying he is just in it for the sex, but you need to ask yourself that if sex (or fooling around) were not part of the equation, how would he feel about you?

Lastly, external pressures are a bit**. Jobs, kids, families, money pressures, it all wears on us. Many, many couples start doing stuff apart...maybe for him it will be playing internet poker until 2:00 am while you are in bed wondering why he cares more about an inside straight than he does you.

For him, he might wonder why you care more for your 1-yr. old baby than you ever did for him, or why when he wants to have sex you just aren't in the mood.

This is the struggle you will face. EVERYBODY goes into a marriage thinking they are different, but nobody really is. Some marriages work, some don't, some get divorced and some should but don't, but then some really do work. If you get married, I hope yours does.

Good luck,

C

Answer 2

Any marriage can be successful if both people WANT to stay married & put forth the effort to keep communicating & growing with each other throughout the years.

The thing is - can you KNOW at that young age that it's what you're going to want for the rest of your life?? Thats hard to know even in your twenties, thirties, & older... but at least when you're older you've got some adult life experience under your belt & can make a more informed decision about who to marry.

Nothing wrong with dating or being engaged & waiting awhile... if you're going to be together forever, then you'll still be together in a few years & even MORE sure that marriage is what you want - thus have a better chance of it lasting.

Answer 3

There isn't any "for-sure" things in this life, other than God. But I do believe young marriages can make it. I know a couple who got married when she was 19 and he in his early 20, and the have been married for 26 yr's now. It's hard but anything that comes easy anit worth it. I go married when I was 19, and he was 29, and we've been happily married for goin on 3 yr's now. Which I had a hard life that made me grow up quickly.

Answer 4

if he is truely your soal mate then yes it can but6 be weary things dont work out alkot of the time,best to always kive with them before you get married and if things are all good then go for it,i got married when i was 17 he was 19 it only lasted 18 months he was going out all the time and i couldnt because i was underage and he treated me like crap because he felt he could being older than me,second time round works perfectly lived with him for after six months of meeting each other and everything couldnt be better after 5 years on,you will know in your heart if it is right thing to do,and if it didnt work out you pick your self up again because we all go through stages in our life to teach us lessons so if something happens it is for a reason for next time

Answer 5

Marriage has no guarantees. If that's what you're looking for, go live with a car battery

Answer 6

yes! my husband and i got married when i was 18 and he was 21. we are still married 22 years later. not that you won't have hard times ,because everyone does, but you have to be willing to stick it out. we have had way more good than bad.

Answer 7

I think some can but on the other hand some aren't. It depends on how the 2 of u treat each other & how well u now each other.

Answer 8

It can. Any marriage can, if it's allowed to.

Answer 9

It can.