What if you really learn who the person is by living with them and decide you don 't want to get married?
2006-06-25 12:04:36 · 11 answers · asked by Vertigo Pulse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Put it this way. I didn't live with my ex husband (notice I said ex) before getting married. So, I didn't realize that he is a liar, cheater/womanizer, abuser, etc. If I had known that, I wouldn't have married him in the first place.
I now live with my fiance and we get along absolutely great and he is NOTHING like my ex!
I believe that it is better to live with your bf/gf before marriage so you will get to know them better and find out if you are compatible to live together. If you aren't, then you can just break up and not have to worry about a divorce, splitting everything up, going to court, spending money on a divorce, etc.
2006-06-25 14:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If living together before marriage ends up in you not marrying then that is a good thing. Surely it would be better to cut your losses then rather than marry then divorce later on due to the same problems.
Personally, I prefer to "live in sin" as it were. It works for me.
2006-06-25 12:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by Elvendra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i live with my fiance and weve been living together for 2yrs and just decided to marry. I think that its better this way because when we do marry im already used to this person what he likes doesnt like just knowing every thing about him. So marriage wont be complicated or any surprises.
2006-06-25 12:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by imaganae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After you get married. It makes getting married special: a start of a really new life.
2006-06-25 12:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by Princess of Egypt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did, and it worked for me.. think of it like this.....you don't buy a car without trying it out. At least if you live together for a little while, and find out that you're not compatible, then you could just break up and not have to go through all the divorce thing. Best of luck to you.
2006-06-25 12:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did this with an ex-FI and we split a year into it (June was to be married in August).
My husband we didn't, the first 3 months was rough but years later we're enjoying life!
2006-06-25 13:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by Nic. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is def what will happen. you will be so sick of them by the time you are suppose to get married. Plus they will still be concidered "single and ohh trust me get married first....or don;t live toether longer then 6 months without getting married
2006-06-25 12:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't live with my husband until after we got married. I think it worked out okay. We had no problems adjusting to each other.
2006-06-25 12:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after
2006-06-25 12:12:44 · answer #9 · answered by sara s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should live together first because not living together makes everything seem so peahcy whene your actually under each others feet every day it is a whole different story living together shows how much you two really are good together,
2006-06-25 12:16:08 · answer #10 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋