I recently found out he was having along time affair. He says he wants to work it out and seems truly sorry. We are going to counseling, I took away his cell phone but not sure if he is still talking to the other woman. Our sex is better than ever but I still find it hard to forget what happened. I have 3 kids but he has cheated before when we were first married. What should I do?
2006-06-25 11:49:59 · 12 answers · asked by lilos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he has cheated on you multiple times, he is not truly sorry. He might be sorry that you found out, but he knows what he was doing, when he went and embraced another woman.
You, and your children, deserve more respect than that.
Don't settle.
2006-06-25 11:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how you feel about his inability to stay faithful to you.
You need to ask yourself a couple of serious questions.
1. Do you think that he will cheat again?
2. Do you trust him?
3. Are you willing to stay with him becasue of the kids?
4.Are you willing to sacriface your happiness to try and keep your marriage together?
This is the second time he has cheated. I just could not see him being totally faithful to you. I understand you have children, but the worst thing you could do is stay becasue of your kids.
It sounds as though you have given thought to leaving him for good. If you truly want it to work, then maybe you two should seek marriage counseling. You need to know exactly why he cheats on you and he needs to really know how much it hurts you.
I hope you can figure out what is best for you. Good Luck!
2006-06-25 19:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sex is bette5r because he feels mor loved and now oyu are probaly all attentive to him. Once things get stressy again he will stray. He cheated for a long time and he dumped her. He will need that new feeling again. He is just staying with you until the "new" thing comes along. It is not you it is ALL HIM...Please move on and find happiness NOW go to counseling for you.....we only have ONE life....live for NO regrets.... learn from this.....don;t make it a regret
2006-06-25 19:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you poor thing i no how you feel. the good thing is you are in control of your relationship at the moment you are the one playing the cards here. i have been in the same situation, ask yourself would if he of told you by himself before you found out or how long would this of kept going on before he told you if you didnt find out. its alot harder when there is children involved. then something else you have to answer he appologised yes you can live with that but now you have to live with the trust can you trust him again yes but that is a path you have to go through and a cycle of hurt grief anger and all to follow it just takes time but never blame yourself. the thing is he did it when you were first married how long was this going on before you did find out. as the saying goes he wants his cake and eat it to. we had a seperation something i wanted as i needed time to grieve etc but in that time i think it was alot harder on me as i needed to learn to trust again and being seperated i was wondering where he was all the time until i took the focus of us and put it into the kids. later on we started dating like a new couple again which was also very hard as i loved him so much and ididnt realise how much love i had for him until he wasnt there. but now we are back together so yes it can work but thats only if you want it to. good luck????
2006-06-25 19:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you're still with him why?
he has a lousy track record
a good sex life can be found anyhwere , so that's poor justification for staying married,
3 kids or not, your kids are better off in a happy enviroment than a a liars enviroment, they know when parents are lying and unhappy and will do they same when they get married or involved.
2006-06-25 18:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouoldnt and the saying once a cheater alwaysa cheater is very true,i feel sorry for you as you have children to him thats what is keeping you there but for your childrens sake you are better off to not have him in your life that way your children will not learn his decietfull ways,if a man truely loves you he would never cheat on you not mentally or physically
2006-06-25 19:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he done this he will never change and i am truley sorry for you as well . as your.3. children to try to look at this with a level head . you havent done nothing wrong but as far as him he wont quit . but only ger worse and sneaker about it find the strenth to say i have had enought and find a man who will except you and the children mamy men will you deserve better in . my opion?
2006-06-26 01:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you created this so you must solve it-the longer it goes on the more he will do it because you made it ok..my advice is to leave,do not listen to him he is a worthless piece of **** and you deserve better..get out and stay out-**** him and his cheating ways...I hate cheaters and the way they try to make it ok..**** him..
2006-06-25 19:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
before taking your descision.First you have to confirm your and kids future and what is the Social status of that lady and childred who will not leaving with parant.
2006-06-25 19:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by linda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheaters are only sorry because they got caught, but they are already planning the next one when they are forgiven.
2006-06-25 19:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by wolf1230pack 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋