My Boyfriend is always working on something and never seems to have any time for me. He says that when I complain about it, I sound just like eery other girl that he has been with. I hardly ever complain but every once in a while I would like some attention. He also complains when I don't give him attention that much. What should I do? And oh by the way He is basically my first real boyfriend!
2006-06-25 11:38:37 · 17 answers · asked by starryeyed4love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You shouldn't have to ask for attention..if the chemistry is there between the two of you, it should just come natural that you would want to be in each other's company. Don't force the issue.. if it is to the point that you are having to take all of the initiative to be with him, then sit down and think about what you want out of this.
2006-06-25 12:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by julianna76301 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How about this idea?
You try to get involved with what ever he is working on, help him, ask him if you could help, like if he is working on a car or something, pass him tools or hold things in place while he tightens bolts etc. Or, if he needs parts, or something to complete a job, rather than him having to drop everything and go downtown to pick it up you get all the information on a piece or paper and go to the store and pick it up. That way you will be around him, and you will be having time with him and he will appreciate you more and wont tend to lump you in with all the other girls he has been with, because I am sure they didn't get involved in things he was doing.
2006-06-25 18:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that there are many other guys out there that you will like just as well and better than this guy. Sounds like he needs to realize how special you are and if he doesn't see that then it's time for you to tell him you're going to find someone else that will consider you special enough to make time for. When you love someone you want to find more time to be with them not less. Maybe he's with you also for the wrong reasons. Trust me you will find many more boys worth your time and that you will love more. Maybe it's time to send this guy on his way until he's ready to realize that in a relationship you treat your girl with respect and now only when you have time.
2006-06-25 18:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by alagk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a b/f or g/f said that I complain about it and in the same breath he talks about not getting enough attention from you then something is very wrong. He's making you feel guilty for something that isn't your fault. He could be playing you so be careful.
2006-06-25 18:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by Andrew P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems to me that your so called boyfriend is sort of playing you as a fool...maybe with another lady...I say this because you claim he never has time for you...I will tell you this much when I am dating some lady and she starts compairing me to her last man...I nip that sh+t in the bud...I lay down the law and tell he that I give two sh+ts about her last relationship with her other man...And if she wants to stay with me she better stop compairing me to her last man unless I ask her about him...If she cannot do that I am out like the wind...and there is no more relationship...You say he give you little attention....Well Miss the best way and the only way to handle this in my eyes to to treat him the exact way he treats you...Tell him what you are doing so that there is no mistake about it on why you are doing this and what you want out of this relationship you have with him....And if all else fails I'm sorry to say it's time for you to move on and cut him off, but that is only the last resource....Trust me you are young and you have your whole life in front of you and there is someone else out there who will and can treat you better....The way you want to be treated......I do hope this helps...
2006-06-25 18:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by newyorkcitypimp1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem! I try not to complain that much because a mans way of showing you that they love you is by working and being able to support you. Just frequently check up on him and ask him if he needs anything. Sorry hunny nothing you do is going to change it.
2006-06-25 18:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by akraft1@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres plenty more men out there that will give you the respect you deserve and give you the attention you need..just put it down to experience..and find a better guy..
2006-06-25 18:43:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to shop around. Sounds like you're not 100% into him, and he sure as heck isn't 100% into you.
2006-06-25 18:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by Stuart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he figures that you should be waiting for the crumbs of his attention??? Maybe you should think about moving on.
2006-06-25 18:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont get along with him then find someone else, if he says you're acting like every other girl he's just trying a sly way to make you shutup. trust me i say that to my husband.
2006-06-25 18:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋