How to deal after being rape by another woman?

Question

I was haning out with some friends and we were drinking abotu a year ago and she came in and took advantage of me while i was asleep----i feel so ashamed and dirty now---and so alone

I;m a woman myself

Answer 1

First and foremost, rape is rape. There is no psychological benefit to it being a woman instead of a man. I'm not sure how old you are, but I would recommend you find a decent counseler and talk it out. There is no statute of limitations on the rape hotline, and they can recommend help for you. Some places have Rape/Spouse abuse crisis centers where people who have been through these types of ordeals can help you with the steps you need to take. The second thing I want you to know is that you did nothing wrong. There is nothing you could have done that would justify the robbing of a part of your humanity, and rape does just that. I'm not sure how the law handles something like this after a year, so I can't tell you whether you can still prosecute, you'll have to talk to your state attorney general's office.

Good Luck

Answer 2

I am so sorry. That must have been utterly humiliating and what a worm! Only a worm would do that. You are not dirty and filthy. What you are is victimized. You are very likely suffering right now from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. When I was a little girl, my Mother was almost raped. I was in the car and my Mother fought hard! She was then a nurse but going to medical school and the babysitter didn't show up. So she had to take me to work. She didn't even get raped but the trauma caused her to quit driving and my Dad was running her everywhere. Finally, Mom's best friend said, "*Eleanor, we are going for a ride". Mother's best friend drove straight to Rape Crisis where my Mom learned that she wasn't at fault and that she was the VICTIM. After that, Mother volunteered for many years at Rape Crisis and she donates annually to keep it going strong now that she's older and lives in the country. Her brush with a rapist changed her, but ultimately it made her stronger. She became a strong, strong woman and capable of anything that came her way. It drove her to be a successful doctor when most docs were men. I pray now that you contact them. It's free and it helps. God Bless You!

Answer 3

First realize that you are not to blame and you did nothing wrong. Rape is wrong and an abuse not only physically but emotionally. You can always report it but most likely no one will do anything about it, especially due to it being a woman on woman rape and there most likley being your word against hers with no physical evidence. What you can do and should do, if you want and can is tell this person that they have hurt you and how you feel about it. You may not want this confrontation and if you don't then what you have to do is convince yourself that you are not a bad person and not at fault. Find also a very good, trustworthy friend that you can confide in and share your hurt and feelings. Maybe a priest or preacher in confidence or a friend you find online but don't hold it in. You need to work through your anger and hurt and share with others. Putting your question here is also one way but then there are many that will not take you serious and post spam replies but you will also find others that care for you and care about you and try and be truthful and honest with you. You are a special person and you must find that special person that you are and learn to love her again. Don't seek to define yourself by things that happen to you but rather overcome them by the way you define yourself as a special unique and strong individual. Either circumstances will control you in life or you will control them. Learning to control them is a process and doesn't come easy at times but is worth it when you do. Don't try and hold things in but it's alright to be angry and express your feelings. Last, repeat the first part .. It's not your fault and you did nothing wrong. Good luck and I'd be happy to talk with you and share with you anytime.

Answer 4

You need to talk to somebody. A psychologist or a psychiatrist...somebody who can help you get over that shameful and dirty feeling. I've been there. I wasn't raped by another woman though, it was a man, a member of my family, but rape is rape whether it's a woman or a man. I kept it in me for a long time until I thought I was gonna go crazy and end up in therapy. It is a very lonely feeling. Please don't let it stay too long. GET HELP NOW!

Answer 5

You were RAPED. It does not matter if it was a man or women. Call the Police. Don't fell guilty. It was not your fault. Call the police make a report. This will affect your life forever if you don't get help now.

Answer 6

It is not your fault. Don't feel ashamed or dirty. Try talking to your parents and then therapists and doctors. I know you probably don't want to talk to your parents but trust me, it is the best option.

Answer 7

its not your fault always remember that just try to put it behind you. I was raped by a guy but i know the feeling dont let it keep you down

Answer 8

call the police rape is rape even if its a woman

Answer 9

how did you get a b*ner in your sleep after passing out from drinking too much?

it's not possible, I don't believe you.

Answer 10

talk to a psychologist. you cant do this alone.