My husband has been chatting with one female for 3 years, maybe more, but I know this one female for sure. He said he stopped but I just resently found out he has not. I created an account to catch him, and he took the bait. We have been chatting for 3 weeks, and he doesn't know its me. We have been married for 16 years, and he lies everytime I ask him in a causual way, What are you doing? Because I purposely call him while hes chatting. (Because of our jobs, we talk on the phone alot) Because of the things he says to her, and to me online, it makes me think he has cheated with her, or is open to cheating with her. I know this lady personally, and she knows me and knows he is married. What is your advice on how to handle the matter? I already confronted him, and that didn't work. I am ready to walk.
2006-06-25 10:53:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hmm well move on than i think hes not into u anymore
2006-06-25 10:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you know what you need to do... but don't short change yourself..confront your fool of a husband and at least listen to what excuse he can come up with on such short notice. I don't take the ending of a marriage lightly, and neither should you..but if this is something that you can't work out within yourself and then manage to continue that marriage, then leaving is your most intelligent option. Sometimes the commitment of a marriage can just become stagnate and stale after a time... I am not giving your husband an excuse, but just trying to see this from all view points. I can only offer you one sound piece of advice to help you out .... make sure you saved copies of all of his "chats" and credit card statements..this will make excellent fuel for your divorce attorney. Shalom.
2006-06-25 11:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by julianna76301 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would not have created the account and contacted those women if he were not intending on cheating. Right now his focus should be on you and the unborn baby you share. Give counseling a try, but if this behavior continues, you and your baby deserve better. After all, you don't want you child to grow up thinking it is acceptable for a man to treat his wife this way.
2016-03-27 04:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you keep all the conversations you have under the assumed ID. One way would be to arrange a meeting, then when you don't show and he returns home ask where he's been. When he lies about it tell him the meeting place and time and tell him you'll see him in the divorce courts....
2006-06-25 10:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by darkness_returns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see this all the time online and don't know why anyone would put up with it, sounds like he's too much into this interent stuff just like many others i know and i would never put up with this type of behavior and have always felt it's wrong if your married. If your unhappy get a divorce
2006-06-25 11:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by preciousmoments1962 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Print out your evidence in case you live in a fault based state. Have you shown him that you were the one he was chatting with? Of course, he may claim that he knew that. Who knows. I say, if you are ready to walk, then walk. Best of luck to you. You don't deserve to be cheated on.
2006-06-25 10:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by thewildeman2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your hubby how you really feel and that you are ready to throw in the towel. You need to tell him that you want him to be honest and that you know about the other women. You should also come clean with him about the fact you have been chatting to him under an assumed name. Tell him you are tired of it and that you want to get into counseling.
2006-06-25 11:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Document, document, document. Get a friend to take pictures of any meetings you can catch. When you are ready to drop the ax, use your chat name to set up a meeting. Be there waiting with your lawyer.
2006-06-25 10:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by AlphaFemale 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's my advice. You confront him one more time and offer him the following options:
1- You admit what you've done and promise never to do it again.
2- I walk out of here right now.
2006-06-25 10:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by justcopyandpaste 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've found out all you need to know, and so the only thing that's left is to leave him. Continuing on is just torturing yourself, and there's no point in that. You KNOW he's guilty, so now you need to get out of that mess. Good Luck!
2006-06-25 11:00:39 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey first of all go u have kids from him if your answer is yes. this what u do get you bags and your kids bags and get a divorce sue him every penny he got then the other woman she going to get mad because you getting all his money then they are going to be unhappy and you own the other hand going to be happy you and your kids and your new friend for 4 months and he got he bring more home then you ex- husband (you like them words----Ha ha ha)
2006-06-25 11:06:22 · answer #11 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋