I've been separated from my wife for almost a year. It takes a year of separation in this state in order to file for divorce. One of the reasons we separated was her affair she had last fall. For almost seven months I had been able to resist certain temtations. But one holiday weekend I went home to visit friends and family, and ended up hooking up with this woman I met back in my hometown. You know what I mean by "hooking up." I remember how hurt and degraded I felt when I discovered the affair. With this woman taking an interest in me, it made me feel good. Maybe a little too good. Because now I go every holiday weekend and hook up either with her or some other women. I just can't stop. I've become a man-ho. I know they don't give a damn about me, other than sexually. I don't expect them too. I just like the attention and the sex. I know it's wrong, but I just can't make myself stop. Any suggestions?
2006-06-25 10:42:59 · 8 answers · asked by Thomas K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, since you're getting divorced anyway, it really dont matter who you sleep with, but is that all you want? sex? no connection to someone in this world? Obviously you've been hurt in your marraige, and now you dont want to be tied down, and you want to experience other women, that will only keep you content for so long. Eventually you will get tired of sleeping around, and want to have one special friendship/relationship again. have fun while it's still fun. but you need to remember you are more than just a piece of meat...good luck!
2006-06-25 10:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by skye 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you like the attention. It sounds like you don't have a local relationship with anyone right now. So you do a quick hook up and try to feel better. Plus you are probalby more comfortable in your hometown. Where you live now probably just reminds you of the affair and divorce.
It isn't moral but your conscience seems to be guiding you in that these hook ups are empty. Don't beat yourself up. You do have physical and emotional needs. Settle down and maybe you will find some one closer to you to have a real relationship with.
good luck
2006-06-25 18:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by RypTwinsplus1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all you are seperated for a year it usually takes a year and 1/2 before you stop ho ing around and want something real. You may think right now that you want something real but in all actuality you don't and u are sending out a hook up vibe. Let it be. Enjoy yourself be safe and believe me i have been through it all. It will stop soon just take it in and do your thing chicken wing.
2006-06-25 17:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by blondiebella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg..im no prude here...many of you have read my answers...but ..geeez...if this were a woman...doing the same thing...everyone in here would be saying that she is a whore, skank...bi tch, or whatever....but all are saying its okay for the man....
....not in my book...your a "WHOREDAWG".....plain and simple...and if u want to find someone ...you wont find the "right" one by doing all that you are doing....think about it...if it was me ..and i saw you with different women all the time....i dont care how nice looking u are...how much $$$ u have ..or what fine car ur driving...you would be a whoredawg in my book and i wouldnt trust you much less want ya!!!!!
of course ..this is just MY personal opinion
2006-06-25 19:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound to me like you need to make yourself stop. as long as they are grown women and are freely making the choice to do it you aren't doing anything wrong. two consenting adults can do as they please. the only way its wrong is if you are telling your wife the two of you can get back together and you love her, blah blah blah but if you are just waiting out the time to file for divorce you are doing just fine. enjoy the fun and the freedom for a while.
2006-06-25 17:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try seeking some professional help. Sounds like you feel guilty for your actions. Is it possible you act out because it makes you feel good then you feel guilt because you acted out. Those are signs of sex addition.
2006-06-25 17:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by qti36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're happy then who cares, do what you want to do.
2006-06-25 17:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by James B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why stop?
2006-06-25 17:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋