ok, my husband is always accusing me of cheating on him, should i be concerned that he may be cheating on me, i work 12 hour day in a nursing home, i come home and cook and clean, when i go out i only go to the grocery store, gas station and pay bills a minimun of about 2 hours out. i have never cheated on him, but i have had suspesion that he has cheated on me but he denies it when i ask, we have been married for 9 yrs. please help me to get him to understand that i dont, and he should trust me.
2006-06-25 10:08:23 · 19 answers · asked by ladyrebel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think maybe he trying to cover something up by accusing you and you feel that too! he knows you can't possibly be having one, but it does sound suspicious that he accuses you ,of course he is going to deny it ,all men do but men ease their guilt usually by making us out to be the baddies ,that is not to say he is but i would seriously question him as to why he is always accusing you look him in the eye when you do,as he is your husband you should by now be able to tell if he's lying or not ,GOOD LUCK
2006-06-25 10:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by okayalder62 5 · 10⤊ 1⤋
Why do men always have to be the ones that accuse us of doing wrong. I have had my bf of 6 yrs accuse me of cheating, but he wasn't cheating on me, I know because i hired a Pvt eye. He was accusing me because he was feeling insecure about himself and no other reason. I lost a little weight and all of the sudden he was so worried that I was looking for something better. Most men that aren't cheaters are just insecure and want you to reassure them that you are attracted to him and only him why don't you try and complimenting him or maybe have a special night with him and make him feel that you are attracted to him after nine years you don't want the first conversation with him to be you accusing him of something you don't know. Give it a try and if your repeated attempts don't work then maybe he is a bum.
2006-06-25 11:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by T agent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation for 2 years. He constantly accused me of cheating on him. When I was suspucious of him, instead of asking him if he cheated I told him I all ready knew what he'd done ( when I really didnt) and he eventually confessed. Then I kicked him out of the house for good and have been a million times happier ever since.
2006-06-25 10:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recognize your nickname from the husband thinks his penis is too small. Honey, if you have the suspicion that he's cheating on you, AND he's complaining that his penis is too small though you've never complained, then maybe it's his mistress that wants him to get the pump. I think that women are fortunate to have that sixth sense and it usually comes with a twisting knotted up feeling in the stomach when we pretty much KNOW that our men are fooling around on us. Whether we decide to listen to that little voice or not is a different thing altogether.
Perhaps you should suggest marital counseling in order to work through the lot of issues that the two of you seem to have. (Suggest it gently, of course. )
2006-06-25 10:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by stankbref101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u think he's cheating?
He is a control freak, and wants u under his thumb
My x husband accused me of cheating all the time, i never did
He needs therapy. He doesn't trust you.
But with my experience of relationship and therapy, the guys never have the problem, to macho to get help.
He sounds like he has something to hide or is very insecure.
2006-06-25 10:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by jordancassandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 words GUILTY CONSCIENCE He is the one who probably is doing all of the cheating or what ever it may be. I would flat out ask him why is is accusing you of these so called actions, then reverse the question and ask him the same questions that he asks you, most of the time men will repeat the question before they answer it so that is a total sign of lieing.
2006-06-25 10:19:49 · answer #6 · answered by maureen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to like this answer, but here goes:
Usually, when one partner accuses the other of cheating, they are. Sorry.
2006-06-25 10:12:19 · answer #7 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband accused me and it came out that he was the one that has been cheated for 2 years.
2006-06-25 10:12:05 · answer #8 · answered by Sandra M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think most of us here thats answered you have had the same experience..my husband used to accuse me to we were married for 9 n half years. with 3 children i also worked long hours. his sis used to look after the kids why i was at work..he used to leave in the mornings at 6.30am for his work. in fact he was leaving and going to my best pals house after her husband had left for work. spending time with her in her bed and going to work from there. and by the time 9am i used to meet my friend at the school gate where all our kids went to the same school. she did this knowing she was in bed with my husband 1 hour before this time..so yes he who accuse are often guilty them selfs..
2006-06-25 10:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be concerned because it sounds like he is cheating. Just don't directly ask him. Search for clues but don't get caught. GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-25 10:28:03 · answer #10 · answered by Carrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋