I try hard not to get into his mind games, but sometimes it happens and I get all upset and he 'wins'. I've been asking for a divorce, he knows I can't afford a lawyer and we could do it through mediation. He'll only do that if I'll hang out with him and have sex with him sometimes. When I do hang out with him, it all starts over again. He won't let me go. We have a 10 yr old daughter and I don't know how to explain this to her. She wants to know why I won't talk to him. I can't tell her that every time I do he starts messing with my head. He drives by my work & home several times a day and calls at least 6 times a day just to say hi or that he loves me. Then he turns around and accuses me of cheating on him and if I get a divorce he'll do whatever he can to take my daughter away. I'm not worried at all that he'll get her, but that he'd put her through that just to get at me. It's like I have to keep the peace and give him what he wants or he'll make my life a living hell. Please help.
2006-06-25 09:49:40 · 7 answers · asked by wise2u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From the sound of your question, I agree with the others, he is a control freak. If he is decieving you into sex, that is a form of rape.
He promises the divorce through mediation, if you'll have sex with him and then he doesn't follow through..... That's rape, I don't care how you slice it.
You need to tell him if he doesn't give you what you want, you will press rape charges. If anything is non-consensual, it is considered rape. Nothing less....
Besides, what kind of loser needs to trick a woman into sex. Personally, I would rather have a woman who wanted to be with me sexually, than to have to lie, cheat and decieve someone into the act.
What has a man gained through manipulation, nothing.
What has a man gained when you have earned a woman's heart, EVERYTHING.
2006-06-25 10:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by darkpoet3000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's a control freak, get out of there, quick! He thinks that by messing with your head, he will keep you. All he cares about is being able to pull your strings. Don't let him. Get your little girl and leave. Calling you and following you doesn't mean that he loves you, just that he's keeping tabs. I know, I'm in the same mess.
2006-06-25 09:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better be careful,sounds like he is a control freak,get the divorce,restraining order and get away from him....in my state if someone drives by or calls three times in one day it is concidered harrassment and they can be arrested...quit being nice and scared do what ever you need to do and get the law involved..but get out...........
2006-06-25 09:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is stalking you find out if your state has a anti stalking law then if so press charges the legal aid will help in you divorce
2006-06-25 09:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by twistedsingle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With that type of thinking, he will always have control over you. Give him what he wants? Honey, I don't even think so but that's entirely up to you....
2006-06-25 09:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop playing mrs nice guy , get rude, get mean and get tough or u might as well just stay married 2 him , is that what u want huh?
huh is it? lady grow some balls! its his way of manipulating you and u let him
2006-06-25 10:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way is move away, and lrt no one know where and try to start over,good luck
2006-06-25 10:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋