My Daughter is 4 1/2 and my ex sees her once a month or less, I give him and his family a open door even when he does not pay child support, I don't say anything bad about her father or the new wife to be..
My ex reason for not seeing her, is that I live to far away (45 mins) but he agreed in the divorce that he would be responsible for picking her up and dropping her off
So I am curious when do you see your kids or if you had a open door when would you see your kids??
2006-06-25 09:06:20 · 8 answers · asked by twistedsingle 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I see my kids every other weekend. They live 2and a half hours away but that doesn`t stop me. And I pick them up on Friday`s and take them home on Sunday`s. My x- does meet me half way but sometimes I drive the whole thing. And we ar good about if the kids don`t want to come that weekend then I`ll pick them up the next weekend. They call me and ask 1st though. Your x is just a lazy a s s !! And as far as Child Support you should get something most states require you too. Florida makes you pay Child Support .
2006-06-25 09:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are nice. I see my kids Wed/Thur overnight and every other weekend. Actually as much as possible, I love my kids and I never asked to be apart from them. My ex asked for the divorce, I pay C.S. never argued about it, money doesn't matter my kids do! Open door nis best, if you can help out once in a while that would be cool maybe meet 1/2 way. I am moving and 1-1/2 away, but I don't care I woul;d drive a million miles to be with my girls!
2006-06-25 09:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by wolf1230pack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditto. Open door policy, she lives ten miles away, and sees our daughter about twice a year. I've stayed single, and she's had the same boyfriend for about six years, so everything is all settled down, but she's too hungover most days to get out of bed before noon.
When she had custody, I had to take her to court to get visits, but now that we've reversed roles, she's more likely to show up on her own birthday, than she is to show up on our daughter's birthday.
It's all part of the non-custodial parent slump that a lot of people get into. Having the courts deem you as being the worse parent really takes a toll on you. It really takes a supreme effort to rise above that and prove them wrong.
2006-06-25 09:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you won't be in a position to generalize this question. there is no longer a great answer to this, it must be case by potential of case. some determine's do no longer derserve visitation (risky life, and so on. and so on) Others do no longer want visitation. In maximum relationships, the mother is the main caretaker, so it rather is wise to make her the custodial determine. merely because of the fact a woman is the custodial determine, is does not recommend she asks for new child help. those that do, experience their ex-companion must be assisting. There are women people obtainable that think of of their infants as a paycheck, there are adult men who do no longer think of they ought to pay new child help because of the fact the youngsters do no longer stay with them. new child help is infrequently ever sufficient to hide the new child's needs so it is not like those women anybody is getting a great payday. I do agree there's a great bias whilst it contains the courts and mom vs. dad. i think of people have it caught of their minds mom= stable and pa = undesirable. I additionally agree, mothers and fathers ought to suck it up and act like adults, it is not honest to cut back to rubble the youngsters because of the fact they are in a position to't type it out or manage the rulings. in maximum circumstances, definite infants want the two mothers and fathers, yet purely whilst the two are stable mothers and fathers.
2016-10-31 11:26:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always a sad situation when a non-custodial parent refuses to utilize their visitations to be with their children and continue a strong presence and healthy influance in the lives of their children. If the non-custodial parent is very deeply dysfunctional be gratefull if s/he does not exercise visistation. We have that situation with our granddaughter and are eternally gratefull the father is not involved with her. He has not seen her in over a year and a half and she has no memory of him. He lives in the same city and yet will not visit her. Which, like I said, is a good thing as he is very dysfunctional as is the majority of his family members. It is difficult even to get him to pay his child support. Right now we are hoping he will allow the soon to be step father to adopt her. She deserves a solid, healthy, loving father, not this sorry excuse for one.
If this man was any type of real man at all he would be utilizing every moment of his time with his children and then taking you up on your wonderfull open door policy to see them even more. Why he isn't is beyound me as children are the most wonderfull gifts life gives us. If he is so shallow as to not have a deep bonded love for his children then perhaps these children are better off not having him come in and out of their lives.
Children who are neglected by a parent who they see at irregular intervals will constantly seak out the love of the parent who loves them the least. It is a void inside of children which they subconsciencly seek to have filled by the parent who is incapable or just unwilling to fill their emotional needs. If this is occuring, it may be best to actually limit the amount of time this"father" has with your children. Depending on how old they are right now that is. If they are over five then it is too late. Under the age of five memories are very unclear. Longer absences by the non-custodial parent could actually be of benifit by reducing depenancy on emotional love from that parent. Sometimes we need to take a long term view of what is in our childrens best interests and make tought decisions. If this man is not going to be a major player in their lives, then queitly encourage the seperation while the children are still very young. This will lessen the negitive impact on their tender souls. I understand the need of having two parents. However, it can be provided by other means than a bio-parent. LIfe with our grand daughter who is about to receive the most loving "step" father imaginable. We are actively encouraging forced child support and quietly encouraging the continued lack of presence of the bio-dad in her life. She will be much better off without this man in her life. Later, when she is older and more able to protect herself and her tender emotions she can seek him out if she chooses. By forcing the child support payments, it will be a tool to encourage him in the right direction of allowing the adoption when it is time. The lure of not having to make these child support payment for the next sixteen years is powerful and very motivating. I think he will be very motivated to sign the papers for the adoption for a child he chooses not to visit or have a relationship with.
Good luck on finding what works best for you and your child(ren). Life is too precious and children the ultimate gift for us to not do what is right for our lives and their lives. Children depend on us to make the best possible choices we can for them. They depend so completely on us to care for them and provide the best possible childhood. Blessed Be.
2006-06-25 09:42:53 · answer #5 · answered by Serenity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like his new life is too important to see his kid so if i was you i would actually make it harder for him to see her and maybe he will open his eyes--or maybe he doesnt care,if i was you i would make him pay support for his child ,i have no kids but if i did i would want to see them everyday..quit being nice!!
2006-06-25 09:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in this case im the kid. i get to see my dad every second weekend
2006-06-25 09:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by unless_you_can_save_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a judge
2006-06-25 09:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by Susan hughes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋