i have a fiancee, we have been together for more than 5 yrs. we also have 4 yr. old son together!! lately, we have been having constant fights! we get along for a few days and fight all the time. we can't seem to get along. i give her everything, but she doesn't seem to appreciate. she tells me that she wants to continue living with me, but when i explain and advise her how to lead her life, she does the opposite. it is getting really frustrating!!
what should i do?
2006-06-25 08:53:29 · 14 answers · asked by carosal98 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why are you telling her how to lead her life? maybe that's what's bothering her. no one likes to be told what to do all the time and a partnership is about working together, not one person being in charge. ask her what she wants besides living with you.. you may be frustrating her as much as she is frustrating you!
2006-06-25 08:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by ixiiprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell aren't you two married yet? Why the hell did you bring a kid into this world without being married yet?
Maybe she's pissed because you're telling her how to live her life. Also, maybe shes mad that you're bossing her around about how SHE should do things, when you won't even finish MARRYING her.
Plus, she has a child now, she's got a lot of crap on her plate with that. I don't know how much time you put into the kid, but if it isn't a lot, dont tell her how to live her life when her life is more devoted to the kid than you are.
But once again, why are you telling her how to live her life? Unwanted advice? Quite possibly. I'd get mad too.
Why not talk to her about why she's getting upset, and before you give her "advice" ask her if she wants any from now on.
2006-06-25 08:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by Velocity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you shouldn't be shacking.She's a grown woman and probably doesn't want you to tell her how to lead her life. Maybe she'll feel better if you two were married, at least she could say well it's my HUSBAND so maybe I'll try to see where he's coming from.Are you listening to what she's saying or do you already have your opinion in your head before she says anything. You can't raise a grown woman, she pretty much knows how and what she wants to do.LISTEN TO HER stop arguing around that child it can affect the child permanently.
2006-06-25 09:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by glo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the age difference in the two of you? is this her first real relationship?or has there been an issue of u cheating on her in the past because,we as being a female sometimes forgive for some things but don't forget an some times we think of how good it would be to be married to our love and we get cold foot because of the past.an then again when your dealing with a grown women we don't like to be told how to carry ourselives by our man just be her mate and not her father an you need to take time to talk about things that go on with the to of you on your good days that you have together an not when your upset.
2006-06-25 09:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by Jazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I assume that she's a grown woman who can make her own decisions so she does NOT need you to try to live her own life for her. Wouldn't it piss you off if she told you how to live your life, take care of your son or do your job?
I think you two need to talk to each other in a calm manner without yelling or fighting. Take her out for a casual lunch to discuss what's been going on.
2006-06-25 08:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. Us women like when a man can open up to us and if she still wants to live with u then obviously she still loves you and wants to be with you. Always remember that a woman wont always listen to her man about how to live her life. Seriously tho, talking can help!
2006-06-25 08:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by ?Blonde_Queen? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys can't work it out (try relationship counseling) then cut and run. Just make sure you draw up a plan involving support and custody (visitation rights) for your son.
2006-06-25 08:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by afreeman20035252 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop telling her how to live her life. You're her fiancee, not her father. If you don't like what she does and cannot be acceptive about it, leave.
2006-06-25 09:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the book, "Men are from Mars and Woman are from Venus" and read it closly!
2006-06-25 08:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to live her life. You don't need to tell her how to live it. i have to wonder why she still wants to live with you. I wouldn't if my hubby was trying to live my life.
2006-06-25 15:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by dkhae1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋