spilt wi my little girls dads shes 3 and i kicked him out cos i got sick of him boozing and gambling,he never hardly looks after the girls,i have 2 the 11yr old not his,and dont give me much money,but i love him dearly and miss him,but he is a boozer and a gambler and although hes neverbeen aggresive i still worry, now things have got nasty and he says he loves his daughter but he dont do that much,he says he cant forgive me 4 throwing him out,but i cant take anymore,he still thinks its all my fault,wot can i do without it getting nasty,after all my girls love him although he aint around much,can someone help??????????????
2006-06-25 08:41:51 · 10 answers · asked by Madonna 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
little girls never grow out of loving their daddy.
I just want to ask you one thing:
am I right? he was a boozer and a gambler and he never much did anything for the kids or helped you with money?
so how come you seem surprised he feels angry at you now?
you gave him the perfect excuse when you kicked him out. he's not going to give you a cent. I bet the only thing you'll get is angry phone calls.
The stupidest thing you could do is take him back.
2006-06-25 08:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart but make sure your kids are first in your heart before your ex. When you first break up with someone, at first you have all that anger & then after a few months, you get to missing the person and you feel like your heart is breaking. You know they have a 12 step program for alcoholics & such well there needs to be a program for breakups.
1.) Anger with a mixture of Hate.
2.) Just plain anger.
3.) Emotions over why did he do this to us.
4.) Sadness because you kicked him out.
5.) Feeling really bad because you children our asking for daddy.
6.) Really missing him.
7.) Questions why you are missing him. Is it because of the kids or do you really miss him.
8.) Finally able to breathe because you know you miss him but you know you made the right decision for you & your family.
9.) Explaining to your children why you made the decision that you made & how much better things will be as soon as things settle down.
10.) Settling down so you can make a schedule for when he can see the kids.
11.)Realizing that you made the best decision for your family.
12.) You feel emotionally free at last.
2006-06-25 09:49:55 · answer #2 · answered by ~Sheila~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to have to say cut your looses now and let him go. If he has decided to drink and gamble his money away then sue him for child support and he will then be made to help you out. Life is better for you without that extra drama into it. Let alone raise your children with a father who is a drunk and gambler. Not setting a good example.
Love tends to be blind and we forget the long term effects it has on our children. They are the ones who will suffer if you allow him to come home.
As the times passes, you will soon find out there is a brighter side of life than living that away :) Cheer up and hold your head up proud and do all that you can do for your daughters :) Best of luck to you :)
2006-06-25 08:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congradulations for being strong enough to throw him out. Alot of women take it and hate themselves for it. You are doing the right thing for your girls and yourself. Tough Love is called tough for a reason. Hold your ground. If he truely loves you and your girls he will change. I dropped a horrible meth habit along with alot of other drugs over six years ago and never touched any of it since. I love my children and my wife. (For the record it took me about three months after telling my girlfriend at the time;my wife now that I'd quit, to actually quitting.)I hope you understood what I'm trying to say there...sorry so long
2006-06-25 08:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by t_mundell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not d end of the world is it? Honey....there is alot of fishes in the deep blue sea.......of coz it is easier said than done but then spending alife with a man who thinks of nobody else except himself.......4GET IT ! If u dont feel the pain n hurt now when it is still early it will get even more worse later on .....show him u r not "DESPERATE " 4him.........then mayb just mayb he will realise n change 4d better n u n yr girls can hv a normal family life with him in it....
2006-06-25 13:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by football_fanatic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he hadn't of F---cked up like he did there would be no reason for you to throw his *** out. He needs to suck it up and be a man and stop with the whining already. The best you can do is give him some cheese to go with that whine (wine). Besides, who asked what he thinks or cares?
2006-06-25 08:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him thst if he getd off the drink and gets out the casino youll take himback. Maby thats what he needs is someone to thretin him with is kids
2006-06-25 08:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by jason s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first priority as a mother should be your kids.If you know that he won't stop gambling and drinking, then you shouldn't risk you or your kids' feelings. Tell him that you need to be absolutely sure that he will stop his habits, because he will be a bad influence on your kids.
2006-06-25 10:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by luvcry247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh for goodness'sake.You're just lonely.The guy is a total waste.Stop letting him inside your head and move on.
2006-06-25 08:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by hotclaws 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk it out tell him its not 4 u or him its all about the kids now
2006-06-25 08:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋