My wife is not really "experienced". I like a lot of foreplay and teasing, building up, etc. Plus she always wants me to *** inside her (I had an operation to exclude pregnancy.) But that gets boring doing the same thing over and over. She did swallow once and gave me a handjob once. But I want her to do those things more often, I know I try pleasing her in different ways, and I am too shy, nervous, etc to ask for something different. When I did, last time she didn't want to. Any suggestions?
2006-06-25 07:51:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are married. She's ur wife. I think u can ask her. But if you dont do it soon, later u wont even b married.
2006-06-25 07:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by funkymonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you something. You complain that your wife doesn't give you enough sexually. Are you romancing her in any way? Because women don't want just sex they want romance too! They want to feel loved by their man. They want compliments. How do you rate yourself when it comes to being romantic? Do you tell her "I love you often?" Do you compliment her on how she looks? Even the way she does her hair? When was the last time you told her she was beautiful when she first wakes up in the morning? Do you offer her help with chores and/or the kids without her asking? When was the last time you surprised her with a candlelight dinner? Are you being spontaneous with her? Like do you give her an affectionate kiss in public? Do you hold her hand in public while walking down the street or at the mall or the park or by the ocean?
These are just some of the many examples you can do to your wife. Try some and/or all of them you'd be surprised how much your wife will give you in return.
2006-06-25 08:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop expecting anything, all expectation does is potentially raise disappointment. Another way of saying this is give up desire and you won't suffer. Isn't all of sex pretty god damn predictable? Don't you already have an idea of what's going to go down before it does? If you didn't expect things, all of coutise would be surreal. Any there wouldn't be a moment where you didn't think you weren't having sex. Every moment we are having sex in some sense, interacting and penatrating this universe/being/reality/God or whatever we are calling it today, and until we realize this, we are stuck with things like penises, handjobs, nervousness, trying to please the other; you are forgetting things like sunshine, music, waking up, laughing, driving a car, all these actions we go through revolve around our divine dance in the cosmos.
2006-06-25 08:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by The Witten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes sponetanety is the best thing you can try.Have you ever been romantic and then just picked her up in your arms and swept her off into the bedroom? Undress her and then undress yourself in front of her, make out on the bed and then take it to the shower,hold her up with her legs wrapped around you.Whoa!! Just thinking about this get me hot! Or plan a candle lit bubble bath with some wine.Sometimes it's not what you do but how you do it?
2006-06-25 08:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by miss-snoopy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you want more you have to tell her. You only suggested one thing that she probably wasn't comfortable doing. Sit down and talk to her about things each of you want to try in bed. My boyfriend has these kind of conversations every once in awhile.
Something I have done before is this. I read Cosmo, the magazine, and occasionally they will have a compilation of sex tricks that people do. I had my boyfriend read one of the articles and circle things he likes. You could try doing that together. If neither of you are going to be open and honest about what you want than your problem isn't going to be solved. As silly as it sounds you can find different positions on line or in books and you can go through them together and see which ones you want to try. But if you are not going to discuss it nothing is going to change.
2006-06-25 07:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just try and take it slow. Don't rush into to anything too fast because then she will think that's all you want. take your time. Everytime time you two have sex, gently guide her to what you want her to do and do it slowly. Don't try too many things in bed at one time. Savor every sexual experience with her. Make it count and make it last. And talking to her about it doesn't hurt either. Just make sure that she is just as into it as you are. Just think, she might have a few tricks up her sleeves for you. You never know!
2006-06-25 08:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by Sonya H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is personal experience and satisfaction. Talk,discuss and convince but don't force. Many good literature are available on the subject. Provide her.
2006-06-25 08:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to set the mood just right. Start by romancing her. They have cards with different sexual pleasures on them, maybe she will agree to playing cards with you. She probably would like something new, if she just tries it.
2006-06-25 07:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont wanna do anything that is gonna make the other uncomfortable.. so sit down and talk to her she 's ur wife.. explain to her what u want and ask her what she wants.. dont be afraid to communicate thats what marriage is all about..
2006-06-25 08:08:48 · answer #9 · answered by wildspirit1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you want something new. that you want to go a bit further and explore a bit with what you like. Tell her that if she doesnt like it, then you wont have to do it again, but she has to try first. then give her something totally new that she is sure to love and then she'll want that instead.
2006-06-25 07:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by efraevo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋