Okay my birthday was June 20th and my dad wants to take me out to eat tonight, ok but here is the deal I am 23, married , with 3 kids we are moving into our own apartment and my husband is the only one that works so our spending is limited my husband says to ask my dad for money(gift card) instead of going out to eat I personally think its wrong. What do you think? Should I or shouldnt I ask my dad for money instead of dinner so we can use it on our new apartment?
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I think I left out that me and my dad arent as close as we should be, he and my mother seperated when I was 8 (he cheated) he didnt keep in touch with me and he has been in my life for about 6 yrs now after my first son.
2006-06-25 07:43:12 · 12 answers · asked by ♥eLiZaBeTh♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well it is not so easy to find a job with three kids, daycare alone is 100 a week per child so I will basically will be working to put the kids through daycare, when I can spend time with them.
2006-06-25 07:54:30 · update #1
I think you don't ask for what you want for your birthday. I say go with your Dad because this will be time well spent with him. If this is what he want's to give you then he is thinking about quality time with you.
2006-06-25 07:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by Nece 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm actually that is very practical. I would rather have the money too instead of throwing it away at a meal. It's your birthday and you should deserve something that YOU want. Just simply suggest that to your dad - that you'd rather have him give you the $ instead of dinner. If he's a good dad, he should understand your position.
Additionally, you should also try to look for a good-paying job. 2 incomes are always better than 1.
2006-06-25 14:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by ♥iamsleepy♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your father is wanting to take you out to eat for your birthday, then that is what should happen. Sorry but I find it very tacky that your husband would suggest such a thing. Would you have thought to ask him for the money had your husband not brought it up? And just how much does he think your father is going to be spending on this dinner anyhow?
2006-06-25 14:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're truly having major fiancial problems, you should explain that to your father and perhaps he can help, but I don't think that this is the time to do that. Your dad is trying to rebuild his relationship with you and your children, and hitting him up for money INSTEAD of the dinner he suggests wouldn't help that process. Plus, it's kind of tasteless and mercenary.
Wait until you and your dad are just hanging out a bit to ask him whether he can help you financially.
2006-06-25 14:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by fhornsr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not.
Regardless of what transpired between your dad and your mother, remember that he is still your dad.
It will be better if you simple have dinner with him and explain your situation with him. That will provide better results.
Just the same, be careful with your husband. Hie request of you with your FATHER needs much to be desired.
He may request other wrongdoings in the future. Keep a good head on your shoulders.
2006-06-25 14:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by awaxa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go out to eat with your dad. he helped give you life. instead of money, love is better. your are 23? havent you learned that already? by the way, try and get a job.
2006-06-25 14:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by tracie6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean you can sort of give him the hint. It might just be kind of unappreciative of you to do that. You know your dad better. Let him take you out and ask him can you borrow some money. Everybody needs help at one point in there life.
2006-06-25 14:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by lhpretty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out wth dad - he's trying to make to make a connection with you. there are times when you have to stop thinkin about what the other person did to you, and start thinking about how you can be a daughter to them.
you can also mention that things are a bit tight with the new apartmetn while you are out sharing time together
2006-06-25 14:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by cvy2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he would understand and he mite even take you out as well, only way is to ask, it is hard to do and none of us want to ask but a birthday dinner or money is ok eather way
2006-06-25 14:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him for the money, and start looking for a better job, instead of staying on the computer
2006-06-25 14:46:35 · answer #10 · answered by sesso*E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋