If you were divorced from your husband who you caught cheating would you take him back with the risk of knowing he can do it again or would you find someone else with the risk of knowing that they could cheat on you as well. Basically would you give your husband a second chance?
2006-06-25 07:41:23 · 19 answers · asked by Kristy J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
.this is a serious problem , you address the problem, then you use another negative to try to rationalize it. you know in your heart this person better than all of us. there is a pattern with a person with a addictive personality disorder. and there is a 70% chance it will happen again. if he cares for you and himself!he would be wise to seek help and treatment for it. it is a up hill battle .remember he made the problem, not you.
2006-07-01 17:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him, I would say yes. With any man there is a gamble on whether or not they will cheat. He honestly may have realized what he had, and misses you and wants to make things right. But, if you go back you have to have completly forgiven him for his past behaviors, and not bring them up or treat him like you don't trust him. It has to be a completely new start. Take it slow, you don't have to make a hasty decision, maybe start out dating again. Over time it will show if he is a new person or if he is wearing a disguise to reel you back in.
2006-06-25 08:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i would take my husband back for just 1 more chance.it depends how many times did he cheat.
he has to show me that was big mistake. cheat is the biggest mistake in a marriage but we are just human. you never know what can happen...you d talk to him and ask him why did he do that, was something missing in the marriage?you shouldn't marry nobody else because men are all the same. soon or later they gonna do something wrong i bet. so give your ex husband a chance or stay alone.
2006-06-25 07:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by BellA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knew what he was getting into when he did it. He basically thought it was more important than your marriage. It would probably be a huge mistake to take him back and give him a second chance because the trust factor has already been destroyed.
2006-06-25 07:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by James B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you still love him AND
If you think he still loves you AND
If you think there are ZERO possibilities that he might do this again..., then Yes go ahead give him a second chance, Meanwhile you also take some pre-caution by not getting too emotionally attached with him. Maintain some distance if you can. Good Luck...!!!
2006-06-25 08:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by frustration 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no do not take him back. doing that would contribute to the thinking you gave a hint of.......take a chance that they would cheat on you as well......that is not rational thinking. see what it has already done to your head, thinking others will cheat as well? why do you want to screw up your head like that, life has enough problems to deal with!
do not go back to someone who cheated on you. once a cheater, always a cheater i always say.
there are many men out there and a lot of them are good men.
good luck.
2006-06-25 07:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by afterflakes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be a little skeptical,first I would date him for about two months and see how things go.If he stayed away from other girls in that way,I would give him a second chance.If he didn't,I suggest that he gets help and I would' t give him a second chance.If I really loved him,I would give it a second chance.As soon as he messed up again,he would be out.
2006-06-25 09:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by JF. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, no second chances on this one. its crazy that you even need to question it! you dont need to find someone else, people can survive out of relationships, and if they ever did some along, dont assume theyll cheat just cos ur ex did... everyone needs to be given a clean slate.
2006-06-25 08:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by niccyford 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When is enough the third time or forth time or what. Once He found it necessary to look elsewhere the marriage was over. Realize it and let him stay in the past.
2006-06-25 07:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by old codger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. When he cheated he blew all the chances of us ever being together again. No way am I going to settle for him.
2006-06-25 08:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋