when i was 17 years old - i had first sex (semi sex) with my boy friend, he only inserted his fingers in my vaginas. That time, only his fingers hurt me much - and my vagina was absolutely dry....so, when he used to move his fingeres inside my vagina, it hurt a lot. Another thing is, when he was near me - i couldnt feel any sex drive...but, when i used to stay apart from him...i used to feel sex drive...during, sex drive, my vagina becomes wet. After age 18, i had separation with my boy friend....still i m a virgin, and when eevr i feel sex drive, still my vagina becomes wet...my question is, when i was 17 why my vagina was too dry? was that normal? but, that driness used to happen only in front him - apart from him, when i felt sex drive it became wet - is this normal? why staying with him, i couldnt feel sex drive? was that normal too? was i too young then for sex? i m fearing now to face any other sexual relationship...am I NORMAL???
2006-06-25 07:40:12 · 10 answers · asked by RaInFaLL 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You were probably just nervous, this could cause a physical change or rather stop a physical change.
2006-06-25 07:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by amish_renegade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep... that is normal. It depends on the moment and time. Sometimes u may be really wet other times dry. Give it time and you will get more into it. Some women dont have a full sex drive until their 30's. Every woman is different.
2006-06-25 14:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by country girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that anything is wrong with you. I think that you got "wet" because it was the anticipation that excited you. Maybe there was no foreplay for you to get excited. He didn't use any lubrication and you were "dry" so naturally it was painful and maybe because of that you don't have that urge for sex. Remember you are only 19 years old...don't rush it. I was your age and pregnant with my first child. Be careful of what you wish for. Take your time. Give it up to someone that really deserves it...someone you love and loves you back. Someone that would die for you just so you wouldn't be hurt. Be as picky and choosey as possible when it comes to giving up your virginity...once you lose it ...it can never be found. Best wishes and take care. P.S. watch out for STDs, HIV, AIDs!!!!!!
2006-06-25 14:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by mothergoose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are normal. He needs to get you aroused for you to become lubricated. He did the fingers before you had a chance to be aroused and that is why you were dry. Some girls don't get aroused as easily as other from physical contact. For some girls its easier to get aroused by thinking about or imagining sex.
If what he does hurts, tell him to stop. His fingers aren't getting pleasure out of it so there is no reason to let him keep doing it. If you keep being dry, get some personal lubricant to help you out.
Just remember that you are normal.
2006-06-25 14:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by emogene209 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE SOOO NORMAL!!!!!!!!!!!! Take your time with anything sexual if you don't feel comfortable, there is no time line for any specific person. Learn to love yourself first, don't try to please men just because you think it is the correct way. Be open and honest with the guys you date, tell them your waiting to experience love with the right person. And when it is the right person, you will know!
2006-06-25 14:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think something is wrong with you --it's not. I probably could have been him and not you. Maybe he wasn't the one. Don't worry about it. However, if you notice continued dryness in your vagina, I'd suggest you speak with your GYN.
2006-06-25 14:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by cajun7_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR NORMAL SOME PPL GET WET SOME DONT YOU GOT TO FIND THE RIGHT PERSON TO TURN YOU ON, ALSO I HEAR THAT WOMAN GO THREW THERE SEX HORMONE CHANGES IN THEIR MID 30'S THEY GO SEX CRAZY AND MEN GET THEIRS YOUNGER . YOUR PERFECTLY FINE NOTHING TO BE WORRIED ABOUT..
2006-06-25 14:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats perfectly normal rainfall, maybe you didnt like your boyfriend as much as you thought lol
2006-06-25 14:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor kid....yes you are perfectly normal. has it occured to you that maybe he just didnt "push your buttons". you obviously have a normal sex drive because you experience desire without him. Reall,honey, its just him.
2006-06-25 14:44:01 · answer #9 · answered by chickenlil7000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fret about it: I was older than you when I developed a drive. And frankly, your boyfriend didn't help matters any.
2006-06-25 14:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋