that my new partner is spending time with our two boys. My new partner and I have plans for him to move in in the next year. As far as the boys are concerned at the moment my new partner is just a friend. He stays over but sleeps in the spare room (as far as the children know). My ex knows about my new partner but doesn't take the relationship seriously...I think he thinks i will go back to him.How can I deal with this with as least upset as possible?
2006-06-25 07:39:28 · 9 answers · asked by janey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is not your fault you have moved on and your old relationship did not work out. dont feel bad because you have moved on and now want a better life for yourself. dont feel guilty, remember your ex is an ex for a reason, dont forget why that happened. who cares what he thinks. who cares what is going on in his life just remember to make yourself happy and take care of those kids.good luck.
2006-06-25 07:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Christina 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you allow yourself any worry what the ex might think, you are letting the ex have control over your life. No where it is written that you are not suppose to get on with your life. He may not be acceptive of it but that's just too bad. He needs to know what he thinks about your personal business does not have any influence over you.
2006-06-25 15:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you wait till the divorce is over. What is the rush and creating many problems for yourself. Wait, do not let the man sleep in until your divorce is final
2006-06-25 15:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he'll be spited off that the new bf has anything to do with hes kids man i know don't play that cos my husband all ready told me if i every lifted him he don't no other man around his kids so ill think about that before u go any farther with him in a relationship
2006-06-25 14:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by fe-fe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your ex know your true intentions before they happen. He may be angry at first but will eventually just give up.
2006-06-25 14:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by James B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no really easy way to do it, but if you need to let the ex know but I feel if you arent together then it has nothin to do with him if not upsettin the kids, be blunt and dont let bein walked on,
2006-06-25 14:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you need to come out and tell your x your serious with this guy and yes its gonna be along term thing and he need to accept it.. then if he see your serious maybe he get off his butt and start taken interest in dating other ladies..
2006-06-25 15:57:27 · answer #7 · answered by Get_Cha_Some 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with him and you should tell him
before the boys do.
2006-06-25 14:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by reneyhun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be truthful and up front, no one likes a liar
2006-06-25 14:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋