I have been dating someone for just about six months. Both of us have children (under age 11), but we have not yet met each other. How do you know when the time is right to introduce them into the relationship?
2006-06-25 07:30:48 · 15 answers · asked by Kim T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That depends. Do you see yourself with this person for the long haul? In ten years?
If so, you may want to intriduce them. Please be honest with your children, though. Tell them that this is someone Mommy (or Daddy) is dating. If they ask what a date is, don't say "adult things". Explain, so your child can get comfortable with the idea.
And for younger children, I'd recommend doing the introductions on your child's turf. Maybe a backyard bbq? Something your child will be comfortable with. Make life as easy as possible.
Best of luck.
2006-06-25 07:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by eriayasha 3 · 7⤊ 2⤋
First decide your relationship with that someone and his attitude. If OK, talk to the children as early as possible and introduce them and get their opinion before their misunderstanding your relationship. Age 11 years is good for understanding.
2006-06-25 07:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are engaged. Otherwise it is not serious enough to involve children. The last thing a child needs is people running in and out of their lives especially after a divorce. I know first hand, my mom did this. She was married several times, and when she moved on she expected us to. It was hard since we had already formed a relationship with the last guy. We had like 100 "dads".
2006-06-25 07:35:30 · answer #3 · answered by sceptileptic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only bring the children into the picture when you are absolutely sure the two of you have a future together. It confuses the kids if you do it too early , then break up.
2006-06-25 07:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where the relationship is at. I didn't introduce my kids until I was certain it was a long-term commitment (marriage). I certainly didn't want my kids growing up with memories of meeting a bunch of mommy's boyfriends.
2006-06-25 07:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are comfortable enough with the other someone and can trust them. Then it would be a nice time to introduce them.
2006-06-25 07:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by James B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a little more time but ask them what they think about you dating this guy. What happen with someone i know brought a guy in the family right after she got in a divore with her daughter dad. The knew guy and the mom was always fighting but there finally got in a dirvore. but now her daughter hates her cause she is always bringing another guy in the house. and her daughter said that he always got in the way them. Her daughter left in note in her mom knew apartment saying" hey mom i hate you !!!! love, your daughter" I'm not saying that could happen to you but you dont want to ruin your relateionship with ya'll family. Just talk to them.
2006-06-25 07:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by Tierra S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would say when the relationship is really serious in my case im the only one with kids so when we meet he met my kids too because i felt it was the right time to do so
2006-06-25 07:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by sexy_enchanted2320032005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know when the right time is. My kids starting asking me who I was spending time with.
2006-06-25 07:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by h0w U liK3 m3 n0w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend time with him first before you introduce him to the children to determine if he's WORTHY....your children are precious.
2006-06-25 07:33:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋