married or dating? which stuffed animal describes you when you fight?

Answer 1

In a committed and cohabiting situation with my fiance. I would have to say I am a kitten, as I learned long ago that fighting is pointless. The saying "you get more with honey than vinager" is a fundamental truth many need to discover. As a stuffed kitten, I would playfully bat my paws, but purr like crazy when given that all powerfull reward of petting. Emotional, physical petting, both are equally important. I curl up around my guy and let him know how much he pleases me and how deeply appreciated he is, exactly the way he is for the whole person, not just a part of him.

When we fight only negitive results occur. When I say "we" I meant couples in general, not my relationship. We do not 'fight". We have discussions. We both realize, through learning and growth, that if each puts the other "first" in all thoughs, deeds, and actions, then we each get our needs met and are treated with respect and consideration. Fighting is immature and futile. Nobody can be "forced" into treating another how they would like. It is a two way street with each individual understanding the reality that the union is an entity with a life and real needs of its own, seperate from the individuals who make up this entity. When each individual comes to understand how the union entity needs to be nurtured and tended to with care and concern it thrives. It glows with an inner radiance which is reflected in each individual. When fighting breaks out damage is done which creates an unhealthy union. An unhealthy union will slowly deteriorate over time. Fighting is unbecoming and ugly. What is unbecoming and ugly will also be reflected within each individual.

Fighting is ugly and unhealthy behavior. It is damaging to each person envolved. Even if one is not engaging, s/he is still allowing this enviroment to surround the inner sanctum of the soul on a regular basis. This will create damage without ever engaging the person who is wishing to fight. It is important to understand the wide spread rot which can infect the most confident individual and erode the solid and healthy foundation they entered the relationship with. As time goes on the others negitive behaviors and lack of ability to behave in healthy and supportive manners will erode the best foundation of self esteem. This is why strong, confident individuals with high self esteem will slowly cave under poor treatment. If they allow themselves to stay in such an unhealthy enviroment. Behavior which manifests as hurtfull, injurious words will seep into souls and corrode life's essense like rust will slowly consume metal. Metal is strong, yet rust will set in and destroy it if it the metal is not cared for properly. A dent which caused a small scrape in the paint will slowly be infected with rust which will erode away more paint and corrode more metal if not attended and fixed. This is rather the same for those who allow themselves to become envolved in long term relationships with unhealthy individuals. The strongest individual with high self esteem will find their self confidence and self esteem slowly erroded with the curruption of negitivity of the other's unhealthy behaviors. Fighting is unhealthy. I do not believe in "healthy" fighting. That is an oximoron. There is not such thing as "healthy" fighting. Just as there is no such thing as un-errodable rust. Fighting is fighting regardless of the face in which we wish to put on it.

Open communication is the key to a healthy relationship. compromise is the next key. Relationships are rather like a door which has mutiple locks and only the proper key will unlock and open it to the wonders inside. The safety that unconditional love and an open, loving, honest, compromising, caring, compassionate, giving soul will open all those locks. However, this is a double door with each having the locks the other must open with the proper keys. By using the proper keys to unlock each others doors to our souls, we create the ultimate loving and giving enviroment in which we find safety, support, love, and the real desire to allow the full healthy expression of our needs, hurts, joys, and each can heal in the warmth of arms which hold us safe from the storms of lfe, and bask in the growth of our individual selves and the marriage union as a whole.

Fighting, regardless of the wrapping in which we enclose it, is still fighting and is unhealthy for any relationship. It injures and wounds. When we fight, somebody must be a "winner" and somebody must be the "loser". This winner and loser situation is not conducive for feeling safe and supported. When two must engage in winning and/or losing it seperates them by competition and injures and wounds when we should feel uplifted, safe, and loved. Nobody can really feel safe or loved when our partner is engaged in winning or one upmanship behaviors. It is when two are a team and everything is designed for each to win that a relationship becomes what it has always been intended to be. A union in which each is safe in the care of the other, the knowlege that we are each placed in a position of utmost importance by the other. When we each place the other as of extreame importance we no longer need to win as both win every single moment of each day. By placing the other as the utmost important in our life, we each or in a position of utmost importance. Fighting is not needed as we each strive to put the others needs ahead of our own. Instead of each individual working despertely to meet their own personal needs, which a selfish postion, we put the needs of our partner first as s/he puts ours first. When both are striving to put the others needs first both get their needs met in an extrodainary way. This is what a union is for. To create a safe harbor, a healthy enviroment in which both can grow and thrive as individuals as well as have a safe place to work through the greifs we all have and experiance in this life. No, fighting has no place within a healthy relationship. Especially a marriage union.

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Answer 2

in case you think approximately marriage there is one element you will desire to do...get to appreciate his mom nicely. If he's a mothers boy, and that may no longer all undesirable, then you rather would desire to understand the place he's coming from. His expectancies of you, whether he does not know it, will revolve around what his mom is like. that may no longer a according to threat this is an absolute. do no longer take this gently. by potential of no potential does it advise you're turning out to be issues however the extra your eyes are open beforehand you marry the extra useful off you would be. you have a brilliant plan to attend college, although this variety of super style of individuals have been sidetracked from that whilst they have a kinfolk. a baby is a huge duty and to no longer be taken gently. college will take a brilliant style of it slow and the two considered one of you will desire to understand that and be very prepared to artwork with that. and that i do advise the two. in case you marry and have a baby he would then ask your self why you won't be able to take extra of the duty of elevating it and you're turning out to be a topic. i'm no longer asserting you're no longer suited for the different purely telling you the failings to contemplate. And definite this is predicated upon adventure.

Answer 3

The one laying on the floor never messed with unless their isnt any other toy to play with.

Answer 4

married. im a real puuuuuuuuuuuuuusy cat

Answer 5

a lion cause i'm the king of the beast and win every time

Answer 6

umm two doves because we never fight

Answer 7

i am married

i would be a jackass, as i am too stupied to learn that fighting is pointless!!

Answer 8

Now this is one stupid question......