Still looking for opinions. The general public has strong views towards what they think love should be like. Will this arrangement work if all are sincere?
2006-06-25 07:01:48 · 19 answers · asked by kishoti 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am ten years older than my husband, and we've been married now for eight years. We have mutual respect for each other's knowledge and experience, the age thing is very rarely an issue, and never is between us. He's not fond of the fact that sometimes people think he's a lot older than he is because he's with me and I am obviously older, but he deals with it.
But that's what I think the key is - mutual respect. Not just in this sort of marriage, but in ANY marriage. You'll still have the same hurdles that others have to overcome, you'll still have the same arguments. Just don't let anything ever turn into something where you're accusing him of not being old enough or mature enough to fully understand. That would be a cheap shot that would not have the result you were hoping for. He has his pride, and whether its politically correct or not, this is something you'll have to pay attention to and guard carefully all of your lives together. It matters THAT much.
So don't let the fact that you were a Beatles fan and that they'd already broken up by the time he was old enough to even know who they were - or whatever similar situation you guys might have - bother you. In the overall scope of things, that just really doesn't matter.
And the heck with what other people might say or think. This is your life and your happiness. Go for it.
2006-06-25 07:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by Crooks Gap 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I have never been attracted to younger men but that's not to say a marriage between an older woman and a younger man can't work. It's all about honesty, communication, and committment. If both people are mature enough to always put the other one's needs first, then they'll be fine.
2006-06-25 07:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by postalmaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depend on how old this guy is and how mature he is because most young guy when they get in to marriage they really dint know what they are getting them self into they not mature enough to realize the responsible of being marry but it has a lot to do on how long these couple have knowing each other and the age diffentes but more then likely it wont last because men dint have the Patience to work on marriage especially when they are so young.
good luck
2006-06-25 09:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say depends on age difference b/c guys mature slower then woman, so i could not be with a guy too much younger then me and acting like a complete child. My mom is 2 years older then my dad and theyve been married 26 years, completely in love still.
2006-06-25 11:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I unquestionably have seen a lot of young women with older adult adult males. the component I word is lots of the girls are what human beings call good looking. The older guy is greater look after with themselves and that's an appeal for a lot of ladies. particular, some adult adult males could have funds, that still ability self assurance.
2016-12-08 12:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything can work if both of can put your mind together. Any marriage to work out need lot of sacrifice. In MY opinion, I have to say for the long run ODDS are against you cause that's not normal. Good Luck...!!!
2006-06-25 08:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by frustration 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is 20 years older than I am but we have a great relationship. This kind of arrangement could work if both of you work at it. Are your feelings mutual? If it is then it will work.
2006-06-25 07:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any marriage can work if there is love, honesty, trust, respect, faithfulness, communication, have GOD in your life just to mention a few things required to have a lasting marriage.
2006-06-25 07:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by abelieverinGOD 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the couple. Any marriage can work, if the couple wants it to. They have to work on it. Age means nothing, unless you are robbing the cradle. If there is love, trust, honor, humor, confidence,caring, to name a few, marriage will work.
2006-06-25 07:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by doglady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes,surprising but it will work.
A man wants emotional security,maturity and a motherly care/understanding from the partner.
It will work if the woman is not parenting him all the time,but be by his side as his girlfrnd.
2006-06-25 07:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by aquarian 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋