This is kinda a personal question, but i don't know who else to ask..?

Question

okay, i was at a party, went to a closset with the guy, i was drunk so everything is kinda blurry, i remember making out with him and then i thought he was fingering me but it kinda hurt. later i went to tehe bathroom (im a virgin) and saw a little bit of blood. so then he started to worry if i had sex with him. i asked him and he said i didnt remember. then 8 days later my boobs feel really sensitive. the next day (today) they still feel really sensitive. i heard that was one of the first signs of pregenancy. so heres the question... 1) do you think i even had sex with him? and 2) what are the first signs of prenancy? i dont know if im worrying over nothing or if i need to take a P. test.... its driving me crazy though!
i am supposed to start my period in about a week, is it too early to get a pregnancy test? is it impossiable to start feeling pregnancy symptons this early (sore boobs, feeling sick,et) how likely is it that he broke my hym while fingering me?

when i guy is fingering you is it rare for it to hurt, and feel uncomfortable?

Answer 1

You poor girl. What you must be going through. Tell you what, if you are still feeling this way in one week and the period does not come, then go and buy the EPT early pregnancy kit. You may have bled a bit from his fingers being around tender flesh. Even non-virgins can get a bit of blood from rough fingers. I am rooting for you and please be careful. Some guys out there will do more in a closet than you could possibly imagine. My Mother the doctor has seen a fair share of their bodies before they go to the morgue. God bless you!

Answer 2

First I must say it saddens me that you felt this was the only place you could ask this question. If you were able to talk honestly about sex in your home you probably wouldn't even have the question. But now that thats out of the way let me see if I can help you, You can take an earlt preg test that can tell you sooner than others read the box for the best one. As far as you feeling signs of pregnancy it is very possible that you are so anxious over this that you are starting to think that you are pregnant. Most likely your breast are tender because you are going to have your period soonbut the only way to know for sure is to go to the store and ge a pregnancy test an hopefully this will scare you enough that you will realize that you are worth more than going into a closet with some guy and not being able to recall if you had sex with him... good luck

Answer 3

I think that you should go to the doctor. Is this guy a credible source? Would he drug you? Would he tell you the truth? Does he have STDs, AIDs? Is he willing to take responsibility if you are pregnant? Can you afford to be wrong with any of these answers? GO TO THE DOCTOR'S OFFICE. Have a pregnancy test done and maybe some other tests as well. I hope that you are not pregnant and that you did contract anything from this guy. In the future, be more careful...drink less and be careful more. Remember that you are a young lady and your virginity is precious. Once you give it away, you can NEVER take it away...and is this how you want to give it up. Remember how you feel now, the next time you look at a drink or think about sex. Best wishes and take care.

Answer 4

First of all it is possible to bleed from him fingering you, for several different reasons. He may have not done it right or too hard. Tenderness in your breasts could be a sign of pregnancy, but more than likely it's because your period is coming soon. I would venture to say nothing else happened. You could take a pregnancy test and it may or may not work this early, but your best bet is to wait for your period. I have a strong feeling that you'll get it soon. It will nearly kill you to wait when your curious, but just wait and save your money. After your period is late by a week, then go buy a test. I think your worrying for nothing, but its not a good idea to get drunk anymore if you don't remember things. You know?

Answer 5

First of all,calm down! It is very possible that he just broke your hymen by fingering you.About a week or so before your period your boobs do have a tendency to become sore, sensitive, and even swollen.Give it a week and see if you get your period. If not,go to planned parenthood and get a pregnancy test done.If it is negative,which I suspect it will be,get on the pill!!! This should scare you enough that you will do something to protect yourself from pregnancy.You also need to think about the fact that a whole lot worse could have happened to you because you were drunk.You could have been raped,gang banged,or killed.Stop drinking so much before you get into trouble.And also,you must use a condom even if you are on the pill so you don't get an STD like HIV or Herpes.

Answer 6

Ah poor thing. Don`drink and go into closets with boys. I actually did a similar thing at thirteen with a much older boy. I literally though it was his finger at the time because I told him no to sex. What respectful 18 year old makes out with a thirteen year old though? It was not his finger but I saw his penis come out of me, I was pretty confused. I did not have a dad and my mom was really sick. Things like this happen and I would not blame yourself...but learn from the experience.

You want to remember your first time and have it be beautiful so don`t drink with boys during adolescence. Boys have all this testosterone and few things on their mind during adolescence. Wait for your period. Anxiety can make it late. One thing to think about when a boy ejaculates it leaves extra fluid in there, which is basic. The fluid clumps slightly with vaginal fluids and would have smelled differently. So basically your vaginal fluid would have had a very different texture very different smell after sex. If it was a little different it was probably from your being excited and not from sex
But In a few weeks contact planned parenthood you should have a pap smear no matter if you are pregnant (and I doubt you are since fingers can hurt and breasts swell normally during the cycle) but contact planned parenthood and you can go there by yourself. It would be better if you had a parent, aunt or teacher that could take you for moral support. When you start sexual activity or might have had sex you need regular check ups for cervical cancer and STDs. Most likely it was his finger and you are not pregnant nor do you have STDs but you want to play it safe. If you are pregnant of course you have options that doctors/nurses/social workers can discuss with you. Good luck.

Answer 7

Hey don't listen to the people who are telling you what to do, they mean well but that is the last thing you need at the moment. The only thing I will tell you to do is take a pregnancy test right now! They are inexpensive and discreet (you can buy one at any drugstore), and you probably are not pregnant -- once that's confirmed, you can stop worrying and this whole thing is over!
If you can get a positive result and you are pregnant (highly unlikely), I would recommend that you call your local women's crisis center and speak to a counselor anonymously over the phone -- they are trained experts and can help you review your options and make your own decision. But my guess is that the blood was just from him fingering you roughly.

Answer 8

You might not have noticed before because you weren't worried about pregnancy but there is often breast tenderness related to your menstrual cycle. You don't give your age but I hope you learned a valuable lesson - you don't want to take or drink anything that makes you lose control to the point you can be taken advantage of. I doubt if you got pregnant but your fertile time is about half way thru your menstral cycle. Some of the newer pregnancy tests on the market claim to give accurate results this early. Good luck.

Answer 9

While I can't tell you if you had sex with this guy or not, I can say that since you remember other things that happened that you most likely would remember that. Any forceful intrusion into the vagina (especially if you were not "ready," ie, lubricated) can cause pain and bleeding. Since you say you are close to your period, I would say that your sore breasts are more likely due to that. However, if you are very worried, you should have a doctor check you out. You may also want to talk with an adult you trust about what happened, as it sounds a little suspect to me.

Answer 10

How old are you dear? You would think that someone who's a virgin would want their first time to be special... A closet? And then you can't even remember if you did anything... NOONE IS EVER that drunk...that's just an excuse.... face the facts and learn a lesson....