i want to forget my childhood?

Question

i had bad childhod

Answer 1

Better to look at it and see what you can learn from it. You really need to do this if you want to be able to get on with your life. At very least, trust that there is some sense in it all until you understand what that sense could be.

In general, any 'unhappy' situation can serve as an opportunity to learn that true happiness does not depend on circumstances, but on what we do with them.

In order to do that, we need to forgive anyone else who has wronged us - in the sense of not spending our lives trying to 'make the person pay us back'. As you well know, they (whoever they are) never can. We have to get our needs met between us and God.

I am not at all suggesting that you should just pretend that nothing happened. If a relationship is unhealthy, sometimes it is necessary to keep emotional and perhaps even physical distance from the other person, at least for a time, until the situation improves, or we are emotionally strong enough to relate in a healthy manner to the person without that distance.

So far, I have had in mind in particular things like parents getting divorced/remarried, physical, verbal or emotional abuse. But there is also the matter of rejection on the part of one's peers. I remember it was quite eye-opening for me to realize that while I was viewing my life as a long string of rejections, I too had rejected a lot of people.

Also, I took a look at the reasons that people rejected me. This kind of thing is a great opportunity to decide what is really important to you. We cannot be giving up bits and pieces of ourselves, our intelligence, our strength, our sensitivity, our personal dignity, our values, our sense of modesty, our concept of masculinity/femininity, the type of relationship we consider to be proper and appropriate, etc.

These things are really important, and this kind of rejection really brings this home: these things are more important than other people's approval. Once we fix that firmly in our minds, it helps us to take rejection in stride and see objectively the reasons for it - that it arises out of the other person's perception of us, the world and how it works, etc. and has nothing to do with our value as a person. It becomes much easier to stand up for what is important to us.

This is a process. It is really worthwhile to go through it consciously. There is nothing quite like the first time you manage to find sense in something that seemed senseless - in the disappearance of a particular person from your life, a difficult relationship with a parent, friend, teacher, [you fill in the blank]. Once you find that sense that first time, it becomes *so* much easier to trust that the rest of your life has its sense too.

It occurs to me, you may enjoy and be challenged by a book I have read I forget how many times: 'The Call to Love' by Anthony J DeMello SJ. it speaks much of such things as love, attachment, our relationships with and perceptions of others, their perceptions of us, living the conscious, examined life, etc. It has 31 chapters, enough to finish it in a month if you read one a day. And each chapter is substantial enough that you probably won't even want to read more than that in one day.

I'm sure that if you were to ask me the same question a year from now, my answer would be different. And God willing, your personal answer will be different in a year's time too. You will view your life differently, in ways that are much less painful, much more constructive, you will take whatever good is to be found in your life and leave the rest.

Taste and see that the Lord is good;
Blessed is the one who takes refuge in Him. (Psalm 34:8)

May He bless you and keep you

Answer 2

I'm sorry you had a bad childhood. Its unfortunate that many children grow up under circumstance that they didn't ask to be subjected to or have any control over. Try not to be ashamed of how you grew up and recognize what you had to overcome to become the person you are now. Hopefully, you see your true value and you realize that your childhood is part of your past. You can't forget your past but you can use it to better your future. You can reflect on the negative aspects of your childhood and remember that you overcame that adversity. You should recognize the power and determination you have now because of it. Use your past to remind yourself not to treat other people badly because you personally know the effects of hurting others. If you have children now or have children in the future remember the damage of negative words and actions on your children. Remind yourself that creating a child doesn't make you a good parent. Children do not come with manuals and neither does parenting. Try to read parenting books and talk to those people who you consider to be good parents about what they did that worked for them. Learn to forgive your parents even if you can't forget your childhood. Some people should never have children and maybe that was the case for your parents. In any event, maybe they were too young, immature, and irresponsible or lacked the financial and emotional resources to give you the kind of childhood you deserved. You didn't do anything wrong you were just caught in the middle of a bad situation. Be proud of who you have become regardless of your childhood and hold your head up because you survived it.

Answer 3

that's extremely unhappy and the priority lies squarely with this rotten bully, who turned right into a coward to savor tormenting you and nevertheless hasn't grown up through the impolite reply he despatched you. What you need to do is to attempt confusing no longer to sense disenchanted through him and rather take pity on the very undeniable actuality that he's with none empathy or kindness. Why do you need to care about what he thinks? it really is the perspectives of relations and real acquaintances which matter the most, so only block this loser out of your innovations, and do not ignore that you've been the more advantageous individual to deliver him a delightful message. he's not nicely worth dropping any extra of your invaluable time, rather only settle for that some people are not tremendous in any respect. bypass out and performance interesting with acquaintances and ignore this bully, good success!

Answer 4

So did I. It is hard to forget. Physical, verbal and emotional abuse were the norm at my house. I was put in kiddie porn, and beat ect. I am a functioning human being and the Doctors I have gone to say I am lying about all the abuse cause I am not dead or in jail or a sicko. It takes you and only you to pick yourself up and do something about who you are!

Answer 5

sad.

i think, a profesional hypnotist can help you. a hypnotic session can do a lot in sewing up the patches.

it can reinforce the happier thoughts in your mind & erase the sad ones.

have a great life ahead!