can you stay friends with an ex you do not have feelings for anymore?

Question

My boyfriend and I broke up 3 weeks ago cos the love is gone. He wants to stay close friends, do you think it can work?

I am still living with him and we are getting on ok... we are moving out next week and I cannot imagine not seeing him anymore. But I am not attracted to him anymore...wierd situation, I know!

Answer 1

yes you can still be good friends there was something that you liked about him before it was sexual so try to find that again and remain friends you obviously stil like him or you would not still be living so close to him

Answer 2

I'm going through the exact same thing. He and I just broke up and he told me last night he wants to go out with this girl from his work. It just tore me up even though i THOUGHT that I didnt' have feelings for him anymore. We broke up because the love is gone, like you said. So where are these jealous feelings coming from? I think it's from the fact that hes been mine for so long and he doesnt want me anymore, its just kind of a slap in the face. So, I guess all in all, I wouldnt recommend it at all. In fact, I recommend getting as far away from him as possible.

Answer 3

From my own past experiences I would say no, because there would always be that deeper hidden affection for one another which could only dissipate after a certain amount of time has passed and this could spark very awkward situations between you and your ex where you would both be vulnerable and possibly end up doing more harm than good.

Answer 4

yes if its strictly Platonic then sure...maybe a Lil flame can rekindle but if not then staying friends is the bets thing.. I'm still friends with a lot of my ex/s and we have no tendencies to try and get back with each other...and i have a boyfriend right now that I'm going to marry soon so yea sure stay friends

Answer 5

I've stayed friends with all but one of the men I ever dated.

We just acknowledged that our relationships were better as friends than as something deeper, and made the decision to move on.

That one guy was the only one that I ever split up with as a result of arguments. I'm better off with not ever speaking to or seeing him again.

Answer 6

Since, y'all have never been married, I think you should stay friends. Good friends are hard to come by. Just don't get jealous when he finds another girlfriend. Or you can look at it this way. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Either way he'll be close to you.

Answer 7

i feel as it kinda depends on how many feelings u had for this person when u were dating. if your didn't have that many feelings then i think that you can try and stay friends. If the feelings were high then the chances of you staying friends with your ex are very low.Just because of what you had for one another while u were together

Answer 8

I think it is too early...3 weeks! Well, depends how long u have been together. If u dont feel nothng for him, let's try. But think about if he'll tell u something about a new girlfriend??

Answer 9

Yep... You can be VERY good friends... Purely because you know so much about each other.. And with the love gone, then you are unlikely to want to have sex again... And even if you do, it won't lead to anything... ;)

Answer 10

It depends, usually men that stay friends want to rehookup with you if you ended it and they really liked you. I call them HangArounds, I see them alot with other girls I have dated. All men know the play but women seem to be blind to it, lol.