Recently I found some porn videos in my bf's room. Originally he told me that he hasn't watched any of it since we started going out. When I confronted him his initial reaction was to deny it but eventually he admitted it. We've been going out for two years but I'm not sure why I'm overreacting over something which many ppl would think is petty. I'm not sure if I feel more disappointed at the fact that he needs material while we're going out, or because he was hiding it from me to begin with. Now that I see him I feel wierd when I'm around him and I don't know what to do...
2006-06-25 05:23:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Most men like porn and I know that my fiancee and I watch it together sometimes , because ya can learn a few new tricks. Also I know he watches and I can tell when he tries new things. It does not bother me because we are open and honest with each other. We as women are emotional and read more into things. Men are not as emotionally complex as us. I can tell you he was probably hiding it because he didn't want to offend you as I am sure he was aware of your feelings. You need to discuss how your feeling with him and decide if you can get through this if not you may need to move on it is only a choice you can make.
2006-06-25 05:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by twinsmakesfive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. Men become addicted to porn. No matter what you do or say will get him to stop. He will lie to you and hide it from you. You feel hurt because he's lusting after someone else. You feel like you should be enough. You will never be. Don't blame yourself. No matter how pretty or sexy,you are. You can't compare. Part of the allure of it . Is about being naughty, and all that goes with that. My X is on his third wife because of it. Believe me. The addiction only gets worse and more hard core, as time goes on. Leave him. NOW! Or waist your time and emotions.
2006-06-25 12:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by wiseone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go.Okay, he told a small lie at first, because he was embarrassed to admit he watches porn.Let it go.He told you the truth.Its NOT like he's cheating on you.Porn can be fun, if you give it a chance.Dont let it overtake your lives but maybe once in a while, involve it in a night together.Maybe you could pick the adult dvd out.they have soft porn, targeted towards women.Now, if he were to lie about other things(making a pattern out of lt=ying)or cheat, then you got something to gripe about.Just let it go.
2006-06-25 12:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he lied to you, and now you don't trust him can be overwhelming. It's not unnatural for him to look at porn, but to deny it is a big deal. If he can lie to you about that, then you wonder what else he has lied to you about. Take it one day at a time and see how it plays out. Good luck.
2006-06-25 12:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YIKES!
Well ummm...I dont really kno how to help u there. You gotta understand that a lotttttt of the boys watch porn. Boys watch porn to giv them pleasure right? Why would he need it whehn he has you? Confront him and tell him that u dont lik him watchin porn. That's all i could tell you. BYeBYe
P.S I would stay away from him if i were you. He might b a big pervert
2006-06-25 12:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by eun3hei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...what do you think he does when you're not around? He watches 'em and probably gets off. So what? I think you're making an issue out of a non-issue. Don't mention it again. Better yet....the two of you should watch one together. You may very well be pleased with the results.
2006-06-25 12:26:59 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys like porn
2006-06-25 13:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by Beatifulhunnie1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk this out with him. communication is one of many factors in a good relationship. accept it or correct it.
2006-06-25 12:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by str8tupgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything of the sorts.
Pretend that you have not seen anything. Sometimes you have to behave as if you know nothing, saw nothing, heard nothing.
Mind how to please him and get happiness for yourself.
2006-06-25 12:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i saw a movie with a similar problem!
2006-06-25 12:33:04 · answer #10 · answered by Maria18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋